Greetings and Salutations!
Maaaan
LOTS of great comments about the Broken Toofus. I appreciate ALLLLLL the suggestions! Y’all rock in that respect. I do have a couple of observations regarding this…
One of which was a conversation I had with Wirecutter. Yeah Kenny from Knuckledraggin My Life Away who I regularly chat with via DM along with a couple of other Bloggers on the regular. Kenny apparently has suffered from some of the same issues that y’all and myself have had regarding the teeth being alllll sorts of fucked up DESPITE our best efforts to insure the longevity of said-teeth.
As I mentioned, and I figured I’d post as I was able to find it, was the ABC Public Service Announcement that used to be broadcast during Saturday Morning Cartoons back in 1973 through 1975… and yeah, for whatever I remember it, hence it’s mention. Aforementioned “Yuckmouth”:
Holy. Hells.
Man…
1) That takes me back.
2) OMFG I’m old!!!!!
OLD!!!OLD!!!OLD!!!
Damn yet again if’n I’m not dating myself.
So yeah, Kenny and I were talking about the various issues we’ve had over the years, and as we went on, well he laid THIS on me towards the end of the conversation:
My teeth weren’t bad when I was growing up. I started having to get root canals when I was in my early 30s, but I still had ’em all.
I asked the dentist one time why I was having to get what seemed like a root canal a month and he told me most of the time it was trauma, then he asked if I’d been hit in the mouth. I asked him, “Recently?”
He said, “No, not recently. Ever. Have you ever been hit in the mouth?”
I laughed and told him, “You might as well do a root canal on every single one of them then. Kind of a PM thing, you know?”
Have I ever been hit in the mouth….. sheee-it. Who the fuck hasn’t been hit in the mouth?
Man… God Bless the man… Talk about an opening.
My response was pretty much what you’d expect:
“…Who the fuck hasn’t been hit in the mouth?”
FAAAAAAR too many ‘Democrats’ LOL
<Mic Drop>
I’d say that summarizes it pretty fucking well.
And yeah, I asked if I could put this up…
His only codicile was for me to explain a LOT of those “punches to the face” were due to his propensity for loose wimmen in dive bars back before he met Miz Lisa. With Wirecutter, I’m sure the majority of y’all are like “Tell us something we wouldn’t have known/guessed!”
Truthfully, it’s something -I- never contemplated.
Probably means I have a LOT more toofus trouble coming sooner, rather than later, despite my attempts to NOT me a “Yuck Mouth”
My concern is that in the Infantry, bar fights were a way of life before the Army got all Uber-Militant-Anti-Fun in the late 1990’s. In fact one of the three Field Grade Article-15’s I got was specifically for brawling in a bar. In THAT particular one, I got off exceptionally light.
NO loss of pay, NO loss of Rank and ONLY 15 days extra duty which consisted of me taking the trash out of the Battalion Commander’s office and the Command Sergeant Major’s office at close of business, and then sweeping and mopping said-aforementioned offices. That took, in total about 20 minutes.
Yep. That was it.
In fact the CSM told me the reason I got off as light as I did was BECAUSE I had jumped in when a fellow member of our Unit (one I didn’t particularly like… he was a bit of a douche) BUT! He was a member of our unit, and as my attitude was that I would be damned if he was going to be beat down by a bunch on Legg Non-Jump Punk Ass Engineers… The CSM told me that unit integrity was MORE important than what I had done, so ergo, I got a minor ‘cooking’ instead of being deep-fried…
I did that bit of extra duty with a bit of pride if I do say so myself… Especially because I refused to rat on who else was in the fight. In this particular brawl, I had the unfortunate issue of getting caught under a dude who’d I had been grappling with on the floor of the bar. I still have no idea who coldcocked him, but the fat fucker was out cold on top of me, with me trying like Hell to get out from his ‘corpse’ so to speak when the MPs showed… It was a shitshow as there were a LOT of folks on the ground rolling around and fussing and fighting, and me struggling with this fat piece of deadweight laid out cold on me…
And when we got to the MP station, I clammed the fuck up.
I wasn’t going to ‘cheese’ on any of my fellow soldats.
Guess it paid off in the end…
So anyways…
Today was a very interesting day.
Gretchen and I went out for a civilized lunch to discuss our issues, and see what needed to be done. Better to be in public and have everything be cool so to speak. It was actually VERY pleasant. We went for some Arabic/Turkish food. When we got there, well… let me tell you. This is a place I frequent when I’m in that part of town (near the VA) and when I have the $$$ to do so. It’s called the “The Dough Show”
Seems there’s a few of them… it’s a new chain.
The place IMO is unreal. It’s located by MOSI (Museum of Science and Industry) and across from the Tampa USF main campus… Turkish Fahteer is the specialty, which is a filo dough sort of cheese and meat stuffed pizza. I mean it’s hard to describe. They have a location in Orlando, one here in Tampa and the newest in Jacksonville. They also have traditional gyros, shawarma, kofta and kebabs. All 100% halal.
ALL 100% absolute AWESOMENESS in eating.
A fahteer looks like this:
Like I said, a filo-dough pizza.
UBER Thin Dough.
The reason it’s called “The Dough Show” is when the chef is prepping the dough, he whips it around in the air to s-t-r-e-t-c-h it out to it’s fullest and thinnest capabilities. Once it’s almost paper-thin, he lays it out on an olive oil soaked mat, and adds all the filling, and then spindle’, folds, and mutilates it and stuffs it in a wood-fired baking oven. It’s a bit pricey BUT OMG!!!
So when we got there, it was standing room ONLY. Wall to wall people. Like more than I’ve ever seen there. In fact Gretchen went to the bathroom, and I after ordering copped a squat at the last table left available in the place. I sat down and found myself next to a gentleman named (as I found out) named Ricky.
Ricky is a naturalized US Citizen from the Philippines. He told me that while he knew of and had been past the Orlando location, he’d never had Arabic food. I was more than happy to explain the chow to him as I having lived there for numerous years, and the fact I knew it was going to be a loooong minute before our chow (both his and ours) was going to be ready, I was more than happy to talk to him. I gave him a breakdown of the various food(s) and the background of them (as far as I know from my limited intel…)
Long story short: Dude was awesome.
He’s a gentleman of the Old School Variety. He was here from Jacksonville visiting with his college aged daughter who was attending an activity at USF (which is right across from the restaurant). He’s retired, and is an avid traveler, hence our ‘common ground’ if you will… Traveling Internationally is almost as bad as a heroin addiction, let me tell you. We both (Gretchen and myself) got along with him like gangbusters. We ended up spending almost two hours waiting on our chow… and yeah it was THAT busy… which led to something a bit out of my ordinary experience..
Without going into it too in depth… all I can say is this was a really strange encounter in that by the time we had to leave… Gretchen opened up in ways she’d never done before… for me or anyone else… maybe the ‘strange shoulder’ or something, but deep down, even -I- felt some weird vibe… well… let’s just say God and Jesus work in seriously mysterious ways, and that Ricky helped Me and Gretchen in so many ways that I don’t even know if he realizes it… or maybe he does…
I dunno… I didn’t go into things regarding us and our current situation… we just sort of left it that we had some serious problems we were working through, and man, he offered support, and advice, and had Gretchen crying openly in the restaurant from some of the thing he pointed out to her regarding our relationship… some of which have been issues that -I- have been pointing out for the past year, year and a half, to no avail… It was like having a mindreader there or something…. Like I said, a very strange but welcome encounter…
VERY helpful and cathartic…
Maybe it took a total outsider to point it out…
Or maybe it was a Divine Intercession…
I have no idea…
But I will say…
Truthfully
Something odd happened today.
Something good
Something that gave me hope
Something that gave me peace in a turbulent time…
All because of some wild assed random meeting in a Haji restaurant that Gretchen didn’t even want to go to… and that afterward, she was grateful that we had gone….
I gave him this URL and warned the guy…
I mean fair is fair amiright?
No idea if he’ll check this out…
But if he does, all I can say is man…
Ricky, you did a world of good today whether you know it or not, and you have my utter and absolute thanks. My own personal NORMALLY cynical POV on this one encounter today tho? All I can say is that Angels don’t always have wings yannow?
Leastways not ones you can see…
And on that broken-tooth note, I’ll talk with you all tommorrow.
More Later
Big Country
You know I hear of things like that more than you might think. Sailors (real sailors, merchant seamen, not the navy, who places ONE quarter-assed (not even half-assed) sailor on board each ship, the bosun, who must struggle to be a mediocre able seaman) talk, but of course we don’t overshare except with friends.
I had a shipmate call me at home to ask where a pipe patch was in my spares lockers.
My wife and I were 6-7 years married and about ready to call it quits, just waiting on the other to pull the pin. I had only talked a little about it with 1-2 guys at work. He was married with kids and a bit strong-opinionated, being a hoodbooger from the projects, but an alright guy. I had my wife answer my
He calls me at home, 3-4 times while I’m laying fiberglass in the garage, and I can’t stop or I ruin the piece, and my wife brought me my phone so I tell her to open it for me, put it on speakerphone, as it was obviously an emergency, but I had epoxy and fiberglass on my gloves. I answered his question and he found the pipe patches, and with my wife right there he asks how she and I are getting along.
About 15 mins later I’m done with my work and the gloves are off and he’s giving out absolute world-class advice and getting us talking. We talked, the 3 of us, for 2 hours. It just happened.
It wasn’t a magic urnaround but that talk got us listening to each other, finally, and we both give the guy enormous credit for being the catslyst to us building a wonderful marriage together.
Right place, right time, right people. I’m happy as hell you had that happen to you, bro. Whatever comes of it, it sounds like you both feel better spiritually.
Indon’t think anyone needs to be an angel to do God’s will or to be a divinely-inspired intervenor. My friend I talked about? He got divorced a few years later. Couldn’t keep his dick in his pants.
Right place, right time, right people. I hope Ricky knows he done real good.
BCE, if you and you know who can come to an agreement and split the property and then have a simple dissolution then it would be waaay cheaper, easier and faster if you want to go the divorce route.
Since you are dancing around possibly going the reconciliation route, in the end you know how she is, how you feel about her and your marriage and what you want to do and in the end it is your call of course.
I just urge caution !! My ex wife and I tried marriage counseling twice in the years leading up to her cheating on me and the divorce. My ex was all gung ho for counseling and the first few sessions she would go on and on about what I did that pissed her off. Then we’d get into what SHE was doing and both times she denied everything, got pissed off and stormed out never to return to the counseling.
You know who has massive red flags, MASSIVE. Her enabling DC has put massive strains on your marriage and made your life a Hell for years. Is she willing… I mean really truly 100% willing to give DC some tough love ? When things blow up with soon to be Grandkid #3, is she going to want to jump in like she did with Gran 1 & 2 ?
It’s obvious that you love her and the Grans and you were done when you were pushed beyond your limit.
The thing is that you have been with her for long enough that she is how she is and at her age she’s not going to change. I have seen it over and over that people will SAY they will change and they will for a month or two and then it’s back to how they usually are.
You have to ask yourself if she will truly change and what YOU want out of life and do you want her in it.
It’s tough I know because your heart is saying one thing and your head is saying another.
“people will SAY they will change and they will for a month or two and then it’s back to how they REALLY are.” …fixed it for you, Jim.
…Billy, just don’t. As I’ve counseled for years – if you ever really love someone, you always will. (yes, we’re that foolish) That said, women are experts at using that, taking advantage of it… I strongly recommend you think only with your head (not the little one) and definitely not your heart. It is good that you shared a moment, that is how adults should handle separation. But it caused a homesick feeling in you; a longing for a time and place you can’t go back to – because with what has happened, it does not exist anymore. You are a new and hopefully wiser man now. Do not betray that new you, because “she” is realizing “she” fucked up.
Forward, brother. Fuck. It. Drive. On.
Amen Brother Amen…
And she hurt your dog.
‘Nuff said…
Well-said, Original Grandpa!
I too have been in a similar situation.
And what you (BCE) are feeling is the “old flame of emotional intimacy” that existed in the before times.
My hope is that you do not get sucked back in.
She has t showed you who she is, with her actions, over lo, these many years.
And people often do not change.
Consider very carefully your next move.
Look at all the good things you have already developed within yourself, in her absence.
I believe you are inviting chaos back in to your life, if you allow her to come back. But you do you.
And ask yourself: is someone who is that cruel to animals, who has no boundaries with fucked-up adult children, someone you want to invite back into your life, also causing YOU much stress and difficulty overall?
A woman’s emotions and tears are fickle as the weather.
Women in this day and age have let themselves go so batshit crazy that they can’t unfuck themselves because they don’t have the humility nor the role model to follow after. If she’s not going to be batshit crazy G, who will she aim to be like? She doesn’t know, Ty’s she won’t change over the long term, and you’ll be gobsmacked when she loses her shit on you next time because you thought she changed.
Good Lord yes. A leopard can’t change it’s spots. This is a game for her, next public meeting spot would be better off held in a lawyers office instead of a freaking dinner date- for BOTH of you. Backbone and spine man or she’s gonna walk all the fuk over you good and hard, there will be cops. I know of that which I speak, here to tell you no pussy is that good, there is always younger and tighter out there, dump her ass before she nails you with some BS charges, You don’t need to wonder where DC got her conniving streak, you know it first hand. This is a woman who shit all over you, I guarantee she didn’t hear and gonna heed any Filipino couples advice, she saw you nodding and went along with it and stuck the knife in with her crocodile tears.
Marriage counselor to him: “She says you have never bought her flowers.”
Him to counselor: “So help me… I never knew she sold flowers.”
I trust coiled up rattlesnakes more than soon to be divorced (or already divorced) ex-wives.
The snakes are just, “Don’t fuck with me and I’ll leave you alone if you back off.”
The ex-wives have an agenda.
As cool as this encounter might have been, remember – the ex has an agenda…and NOTHING good will come from that that will last any amount of time. I’m glad you guys had a moment of connection that was peaceful. Sometimes that can really help. Don’t count on it continuing.
Youre nuts dude. She will lie, beg and steal to get out of the suck ass situation she caused for herself. Remember, its not just her, its her whole psycho family that comes with the deal. Run away as fast and as far as you can.
^^^^^ T. H. I. S. ! ^^^^^
what is wrong with you brother BCE?
get your head right man have NO CONTACT
These guys are right. Don’t go back.
Yea remember Micah the dude that was probably fucking her wanting you to come down and fight… Gross do not ever enter her again unless you like sloppy seconds of course…Stay the fuck away her BC ..
yup. at my age 61~62, i think 10x before i even consider exchanging a phone # let alone bodily fluids.. they have already done the dirty with every lowlife(most have fucked at least 1 nigger- as it is a rite of passage for them) who would lay with them before they got the courage to step up and offer that nasty snatch to you… if i don’t get a virgin in the future, i will get a robot sex doll before i’ll stick it in diseased AND crazy.
Might need to expand your search area outside of your AO Brother or just go on enjoying your life…
LOL
Lineman
I’m chewing at the bit to get a fast, salt water live-aboard and make way south from FL. Most likely pretty soon… Shouldn’t be to hard to find much better quality than what murkka has to offer. I’ll make sure to have enough gold & silver coins…
Don’t fall for it. She’s shown her true colors. It’s all about YOUR money and nothing more. She needs you, you do not need her as all she brings to the table is misery. She should scurry back home and get ready for the new baby. God forbid she might have to get a job.
I have known a few guys that fell for that only to get burnt even worse the second time around.
distance is your best friend here. tell us again, what number guy are you in her life ?
DC is not going to change. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. and guess what, Mom will always run to her aid.
then there is the small problem of her parents. how many times have you dropped everything to run up there and help them ?
I got off easy compared to some guys. my EX shown up one Friday and the kids ( I had them) where
overjoyed by the fact that “mommy home” bullshit. anyway, on Sunday I told her she had to get a job or go to school or something beside sit at home and spend my money. well, that is when she fucked up
“you don’t have the right to tell me what to do” shit. great. you just made it easy.
called out from work on Monday, dropped the kids off at school and went to the bank. pulled out some cash and drove right to the airport. put her ass on the first non stop plane back. waited and watch her board it. then watched the plane leave. drove home. my parents where waiting. I told them what happened. my dad said I should put her ass on a bus. to that I told him, you can get off a bus, or a train
but you not getting off a non stop plane ! it was the best money I ever spent.
Dude, you have a steady check coming in. a nice house. a “newer ride” and you where good to her.
there not a woman on the planet that doesn’t want that in a man. I mean. good times are great and all
BUT, you don’t get them all the time now do you ?
remember just how bad the bad times where too.
really, you better think this thru. think you where hurt before? next time it will be a lot worse for you.
trust is a lot like TP, works very well for the most part. but if you ripped it to shreds, it not good for shit. yeah. I came up with that after looking thru a lot of green beer bottle bottoms.
and she tried to have you SWATTED. run away.
^^^ all this, and further, the sausage princess says “naw dog, run away”. Please be careful BC, I don’t know what you’re intent is here, but giving a second chance (more like a 200th chance, considering the BS drama that was brought into your life over the last few years) is very much ill advised, given what is known based on lived experience, and this latest turn of events is so predictable, it reads like a script from a TV movie.
Remember where you stand as regards actions already taken: felony animal abuse, federal wire fraud, grand theft auto, and an attempted swatting.. Those are just the the coarse details we, the readership, are aware of. There’s no coming back from a list of offenses like that, IMHO. Don’t get sweet talked into an even worse situation. Past results are indicative of future performance.
What’s that saying “Life is Tough but it’s a lot Tougher if you are stupid… Don’t be stupid BC…
73-75 color grunge mouth cartoon. LOL. My childhood tv memories are all in black and white.
I am not going to even try to advise you one way or the other. You know that I walked away from the Handmaiden of Satan because I knew it would never get better.
That was me. It ain’t you.
I am not the only one who has noticed how much lighter you have been for these last few weeks.
She, you, her family are not going to change. Only you can decide if it is worth it to let her return.
Maybe this is nothing more than an opportunity for the two of you to separate in a civilized manner?
Maybe it is the restart of the marriage?
All I can say is, We ALL got your back no matter what you decide is best for you.
Take your time and think it through my brother.
-Joe
Oh and tfA-t is thinking about buying a blue water boat? Who says piracy is dead. T-Fat! The terror of the seven seas.
Ahoy! Bring out ye bitches!
I had to close the page and sit for about ten minutes, going Holee Shit! Thoughts such as leopards not changing their spots running through my mind. Also, that the Prince of Lies well knows how to take advantage of people’s good will.
I quite possibly am wrong, but… I’m not at all sure that it was God who steered your “new friend” into this “chance encounter”.
Be extremely wary my friend, this would be a horrible time to make a bad decision.
Shooter.
You echo all our thoughts Brother…
Oh boy.
No,
Just No
When a man gets an erection the blood leaves his brain.
The women make great use of this fact.
They are not smarter, they are cunning about our weaknesses.
Yea hurt his dog, tried to kill him, stole his money, and last but not least she said she was disgusted by his gut and didn’t want to fuck him…Fuck that bitch…
well. I thought about this a bit more.
one, where is she staying right now ? at home with Mom and dad ? that has to suck.
two, does she have a steady check coming in like YOU do ? if not, why not ?
3RD and most important, what does “she” bring to the table ? I mean besides all of the problems
that is? anything that makes your life better ?
and then there is the little thing of having you SWATTED. you got lucky that time. FACE IT.
a lot of the times those go real bad for the person getting swatted. like getting shot by the police.
that for me anyway, is a bridge burnt beyond repair.
right now, she is finding out the hard way that cars don’t fill themselves, someone has to pay for the gasoline in it. and then there are all of the other bills. and food. heat and AC bills.
really you should sit and think long and hard about this. she has, bet your ass on that part.
why else is she trying to get back inside YOUR house ?
love ? yeah, right. my EX has gotten married and divorced 3 times after me and according to the kids
“she still loves me” yeah, right. she loves my house, car and the fact the bills are paid.
time to move dude. as she has found a weakness and she will use it for all she can to get back inside.
and you be right back where you started from. doesn’t take much skull sweat to see where this is going and what she trying to do.
Oh yeah. Forgot about the swatting situation. After that, you should know her heart, and what she is capable of. You see her tears as proof she loves you, i see them as a necessary performance to get back into your living situation where she can further torture you until she pulls the knife on you herself. Remember the doggo.
Sage advice…
I’ve had time to think on this more while weedeating this morning. Much like Dave I’m wondering, what is she bringing to the table? Things have got to be kinda sucky for her right now. The entire burden of her parents and DC is on her back at the moment. And she had you SWATTED bro. If the wrong group of armed government workers had shown up, you would be dead. So would your dogs and probably your cats.
I’m coming to the belief that Ricky was a plant. She “knows” what kind of guy would impress you. That little bathroom break could have given her time to text “We are at this address”, she had a reasonable idea where you would want to chow down. Tears? Scripted perhaps? One of the top 5 female manipulation weapons.
Let’s not forget she attacked and injured Stella either.
You’ve been doing lots better since she’s been gone. New ride, much better physical shape, no antifreeze in your food, all your friends pulling for you.
The decision is of course yours, our advice is worth exactly what you paid for it. But I would hate to see you throw it all away and have the old tired always ill BC back.
Shooter.
P.S. to Dave. Got some hi-temp red grease from the Zon, works great. Thanks for the advice, I tossed what was left of the white lithium in the trash.
hey, no problem! I asked my brother about where he got it from awhile back. it was in a gallon size can with the writing worn off it. I scraped the can clean and put it in a smaller can.
I use those Q tip kind of things (long) to put it on with. doesn’t take a lot either to work.
anyway, it just some sort of hi temp grease they use on Huey’s. YEAH. it is that old.
I remember one thing I was told many years ago. women are very good at “selling”
themselves. be it tears, or sex to get what they want.
and you right to feel like this was “set up” . I getting that feeling as well.
but, hey. it is your life here. not ours. only you can decide if it worth all of the bullshit, loss of time and money helping out her family and their problems. being the “white knight ” thing can be cool and feels great. but how often are you going to play it ? and what return are you going to get ?
There’s 2 ways to read this. 1) an amicable split is more possible due to Ricky or 2) the Trainwreck has hired another coal shoveler, the engines are picking up speed, and the Internet is in for some more sad but entertaining redneck Drama. …………………………………………………………………………………………………………… This SO textbook. (she is probably starting to feel the financial and mental pinch of her life and wants to sucker you back into Hell. keep your dick in your pants and your mind on the prize).
Nothing new under the sun some wise old fellow said.
2 Peter 2:22
Of them the proverbs are true: “A dog returns to its vomit,” and, “A sow that is washed goes back to her wallowing in the mud.”
Dumb Cunt is still there, her sending a SWAT Hit is still there.
I’d be mildly surprised if after the fact you find out Mr. Wise Words was hired by her for the act.
Please put all this ON HOLD for 6 months. If she REALLY “LOVES YOU” not the wallet, she’s still be there.
Well sheeeit. Who knows, fellas? It all comes down to the people involved. A lot of us have hindsight on different situations with different people. The stats and probabilities on these things are what they are. But sometimes people change. Not often, but sometimes. Maybe this is one of those times and our Esteemed Blog Host can patch things up.
Traumatic separations often produce big mood swings and involve a world of hurt. In situations like that the only guy that can call the shots is the bum in the middle of it.
Be careful Tiny.
The wife and I have manged to stay together for 49 years, except for a one year long separation in ’85, because of a car accident/injuries, causing extreme financial issues, which cause other issues. We were seven years together at that point. Took a year to prove to ourselves and each other that we were willing to put in the sweat equity.
We’ve seen a lot of other’s marriages drift or crash apart. The only advice I’m going to give you is to re-read the comments above. In my opinion, she committed MORE THAN ONE unforgivable transgression.
Life is tough enough, battling the world, with an agreeable, wife, ally. You don’t need to battle the world AND your wife. That’s a losing proposition.
Good luck and good fortune in your contemplative, deep thoughts and decision making. May the Lord assist you.
dude. the sheriffs office central dispatch has called me 3 times this month for a “wellness check”- WTF?
seems my 2nd X(she’s been married 6 fucking times now, ours being the 1st) who i haven’t had contact with in 8 years and 10 years before that one time, and about 15 years before that time, is all of the sudden worried about me…. i finally told the dispatcher i wanted no contact, so no, i won’t call her and tell her to stop calling them. they sent over a deputy a couple of days ago to verify i was doing ok and then the deputy could call her and tell her to stop trying to get ahold of me. i have nothing for the ones who tried their best to destroy me, torture me, and yup, even put me in jail… shake it off man, there’s worse things in life than not “being in love”
it’s over Rakkasan- “let it be”
https://henrymakow.com/our_love_affair_with_god.html
Well said
Dude, a wise man once sais “opinions are like assholes – everyone’s got one.”
These guys posting bullshit along the lines of “don’t take her back”, while I’m sure are well meaning, are NOT in your shoes. They don’t have to deal with the specific consequences of your decision, whatever it may be – but you do.
All I’m gonna tell you is this: you do what YOU feel and think you need to. It’s YOUR life and YOUR marriage, not theirs.
Godspeed and good luck brother.
I understand that sentiment, but some posting advice here not to get drawn back in have, in fact, lived a similar experience, so are speaking from first hand knowledge. Others have observed relatives and close friends go through this stuff. Again, “experience hath shewn”.
Further, there is enough recorded history (via this very blog) about what BC has been put through, that those of us counseling him to cut loose and not look back have plenty good reason to do so. So, the advice is sound, and is given out of legit concern that he not needlessly suffer through an experience that many others have already weathered.
Finally, if it weren’t for the panoply of difficulties and drama BC had already gone through, and the specific events that initially predicated the separation, I (and suspect most others here) wouldn’t be so quick to sound the “danger Will Robinson!” alarm, and encourage him to ditch. One has to consider the entirety of what he has gone on the last few years to appreciate the overwhelming number of comments calling for him to make a hard break and walk away. Given what is known, it isn’t a stretch to call the stakes a matter of life or death. Any attempt to deny that is willful blindness.
Brother you are a bard and have a way with words…All Truth in What you Convey…BC listen to this Brother who only has your best interest in mind and wants to see you happy and not beat down and sick as you were when she was making your life hell…
Good God Ruckus, I just spewed water all over my TV tray. Luckily, my keyboard was put up. “danger Will Robinson!” indeed, an excellent way to put it. Everything about this is setting off my Spidey sense.
Shooter
@Big Ruckus D:
I’m not going to argue with you because there really isn’t anything to argue. You’ve said your piece and you’ve made your position on the matter quite clear, on this posts and past ones involving this subject and more generally involving women and relationships. Your position is yours and you are perfectly entitled to it.
You are right in your phrasing “given what we know”. Not calling BCE a bullshitter at all, but I’d be willing to wager there is quite a bit of nuance and detail to the story we do not know. Maybe for the sake of brevity, maybe because of the frame of mind he was in at the time when he was writing his posts, or maybe…just maybe…for the sake of ‘it’s none of our goddamn business’. I’ve dealt with more than enough domestic disputes, with complete strangers and personally, to know there always is more to the story. There always is.
If BCE and Gretchen are having this sort of experience, assisted by a complete stranger, there’s clearly a reason for it. I mean, he’s not saying they’re going to get back together again. What he said was it was cathartic, meaning that they had an opportunity to settle their hash constructively without the whole affair devolving into a cage match. This is a very good thing.
Do I think they should get back together again? Who the fuck cares what I think? I don’t have to deal with the fallout if they do and things go tits up. Neither do you or anyone else for that matter. That’s why I didn’t tell him what I think he should do; because, ultimately, it doesn’t matter.
I wish him and Gretchen well. Whatever decision BCE chooses to make, he has my unconditional support, for whatever that’s worth to him. If you, or anyone else here, truly cares for his well being the way you claim to, he should have yours too.
Well, I had a polite and reasoned response to this, but the filter done ate it, apparently (go figure). Maybe it’ll show up later, I don’t care to retype it now.
I would just say that’s why we live in such a fucked up country is because no one holds one another accountable like they did when we had Community which we haven’t had for many years…This every man for himself attitude is why we are ruled by those who are Evil Tribal Fuckers…
Every man for himself attitude? What the hell are you babbling about? Nobody said anything about that at all.
Do I think they should get back together again? Who the fuck cares what I think? I don’t have to deal with the fallout if they do and things go tits up. Neither do you or anyone else for that matter. That’s why I didn’t tell him what I think he should do; because, ultimately, it doesn’t matter.
That’s what I refered too when I said it’s every man for himself and not holding anyone accountable…
I struggle to comprehend how you get ‘every man for himself’ out of any of that. I didn’t even imply such a thing.
This is obviously not a ‘black and white’ issue, given that BCE and Gretchen are on speaking terms. Whatever she did (given what BCE has disclosed) HE clearly feels he can at least try to engage in peaceful dialogue with her. You or I might not wish to do this, but we are also incapable of seeing the issue from BCE’s point of view, so there’s that. We ain’t standing in his moccassins, so how he proceeds is a decision only HE can make. All we can do, if anything, is *at minimum* lend an ear if it doesn’t work out.
Nothing in that at all about ‘every man for himself’. Quite the contrary, in fact. Hope that clears things a bit.
@Big Ruckus D:
*shrugs* No worries.
I know BCE’s got a big readership and many of those people have a vested interest in his health and welfare. He’s very fortunate to have this. It’s actually the main reason I wouldn’t co-blog with him when he asked me to – I don’t want to step on his cape or cramp his style.
I just think that it’s most important to respect and support whatever direction BCE decides to take in dealing with his problems, even if we might not agree with them.
Besides…given that this IS BCE we’re talking about, suggesting this is potentially ‘life and death’ might be a bit on the side of hyperbole. We know BCE is not an idiot. He knows what he’s doing.
Only you know the 100% facts of what went on. My 2 cents: deliberately, if it was, hurting an innocent animal for whatever reason, whether she snapped, or to piss you off, that’s unforgivable. Stealing the money for the medical bills is icing on the cake.
damn, I forgot that part. stealing the dog medical bill fund. I bet/ guess the money all gone now.
you might want to make list with Sapper and see the pro’s and con’s on paper.
chances are the con’s are going to out number the pro’s by a fair bit.
Don Henley once sang “Out on the road today, I saw a Deadhead sticker on a Cadillac
A little voice inside my head said, “Don’t look back, you can never look back”
I thought I knew what love was, what did I know?
Those days are gone forever, I should just let them go”
Let them go man. As a reader for last couple of years and infrequent commenter, I read the positive changes in your life and your improved health and believe you are on the right road to recovery from a toxic relationship. Been there, done that. Cost me a lot of money, friends and a job before I acknowledged that nothing “I” could do would change her.
What JJ said reminded me of a line from an Aerosmith song.
You think you’re in love like it’s a real sure thing but every time you fall you get your ass in a sling. You used to be strong but now it’s ooohh baby please. Falling in love is so hard on the knees.
Shooter
Yeah, the next time she wants to do lunch just make sure you run a batch before you go. Clear head and all. Don’t let them titties hypnotize ya. She has a plan, they all do. If you ain’t happy with your own company ain’t nobody else gonna be either.
My 2 cents: Gretchen hurt your dog badly, and people who abuse animals, are working up to abusing people. She then left you high and dry by taking the car knowing you are the ONLY source of income. That wasn’t enough, she had the local PD come over to see if you could be jailed, fined, shot, or put in a mental facility. She is still pandering to her white trash daughter. Her parents still need care and work on their home and you are free to “help” her. AND….she is alone in her misery. Take a trip to Vegas with a bud, as women you pay up front are far cheaper in the long run. Win money and have a great time.
Please get a divorce and move. I can see no upside for you in this…..
Good Advice Sister if he stays there she will keep coming back over and over until he gives in because he’s lonely…He needs distance a lot of distance…
Change your socks at least as often as you change your whammenz.
You’re not suffering the way she intended for you to suffer, in fact you seem to be thriving. She’ll try to get in and make sure she does it right the next time.
Best thing to hope for is an amicable split with an uncontested divorce without having to resort to lawyers and divorce court.
The ol adage of the scorpion and frog come to mind…
Amen bro.
Shooter
Maybe. But I think that simply considering it the “nature of the beast” is being far too charitable. Humans are capable of forethought and intent, unlike a pea-brained scorpion, which is just doing what it does instinctively. We all know a woman who has chosen to destroy a relationship will be petty and vindictive, oftentimes even to extremes that defy comprehension. This is the danger in allowing her a foot back in the door, so to speak.
If her intent is to be vindictive so she can “win” (in her own mind) by making him miserable – or even dead -then this is precisely the means by which the circumstances to accomplish that will be created. Thus, a hard no-contact rule needs to be maintained. Let the lawyers duke it out on your behalf, and don’t get suckered back in by apologetic and flirtatious behavior, which may be just another means to a pre-planned end.
We all know a woman who has chosen to destroy a relationship will be petty and vindictive, oftentimes even to extremes that defy comprehension
So isn’t that their instincts kicking in😂😂😂
No you are right they have a lot more malice than a scorpion…
The underlying basis for such behavior may be somewhat instinctual (or evolved), but the actual implementation of it demonstrates a flair for the dramatic and malicious. There is a “creative factor” in how women seek to harm a man from whom they’ve become estranged, complete with Oscar worthy acting, and pre-planning of elaborate scenarios meant to create just the right conditions to make the kill shot.
I’ve witnessed some unbelievably detailed, crafty and downright evil revenge ploys play out against men I know (co-workers, current and former friends), enough to know that the intent is there to be as damaging as possible to their interests and well being. An interesting aside to this is that feminized men tend to do this same kind of underhanded, backstabbing shit, rather than simply dealing with a problem head on in a fair fight.
I’ve also been privy to conversations in which a woman will gloat heartily about the damage she has wrought. Such a woman will drive a man to suicide, and then celebrate the fact she “got one over” on him with a certain amount of relish, before moving on to her next victim. It was quite the eye-opening experience to see and hear this stuff, after being sold all the typical blue pill misinformation for the first two decades of my life.
Once one has had their POV changed by this experience, one can never look at women again without a certain amount of caution and cyncisim regarding their motives. Discovering the depths they are capable of at their worst has truly been one of life’s great disappointments.
There is a term for that and it’s called being a Black Widow and you would have to be insane to walk willingly back into her web after she tried killing you…But some men don’t learn after being punched in the nuts they have to keep getting them stomped on until there is nothing left…Sad That…
Don’t ever be alone with her. If you are, I bet you dollars to donuts that you get slapped with a DV charge and your guns get confiscated. Years of court and big dollars to fix that.
Women think differently, revenge and back stabbing seems to be built into their genetics. You know what she’s already done to you and your pup, she won’t change. You’d never give a guy who did these sorts of things another chance, why would you for her?
If you’re thinking of believing the ‘it will be different now, I luuuv you…’ line, tell her you’re going ahead with the divorce and to come back in a year. If she’s telling the truth, you’ll see her in a year, if she really just luuuvs your money, you’ll get a very different reaction right away.
Dude:
It’s what she did to Stella that convinced me that she’s permanently toxic. The Sausage Princess never did anything to her – she did that to an innocent dog to get at YOU! Even if she honestly loves you, she loves DC more – a mother’s love for her child is innate. In all honesty, I blame DC for all of this.
Run and don’t look back.
There is the example of taking an mouthful of sour milk from the carton in the coolerator and putting it back to find it far worse the next time you go for a chug! If you go back and thunder in at least you can’t say you weren’t warned.
Yea plenty of danger signs and road closed ahead coming from the comment section and if he chooses to go around them and ignore them then the bridge out ahead will wreck his life and might kill him…Just me but if my woman told me she didn’t desire me for any reason I wouldn’t look twice at her ever again because she would be in the rear view fading fast…
here a evil thought, just what did she want to happen when you got swatted by the police ?
jail time? prison maybe or did she want you dead ? some sort of mental hold ? what ?
a lot of times the guy getting swatted ends up getting shot or worse. you where very lucky that time.
if she wanted you dead, what plans did she have in mind for your house and stuff ?
with you dead, she gets just about everything. right ?
and she took the dog fund too. WHY ? has she tried to repay you on the money she took away ?
hate to have to think like this but the signs are there screaming at me.
and she took the ride/car. seems like all EXs do that bit. hell. mine did as well.
really, think about this some more.
I won’t comment on the Gretch situation. Sometimes weird and good things do happen. Sometimes not.
As to old, I remember two bacteria named ‘Sal’ and ‘Monella,’ yes, Italian accents and all, that talked about proper food handling in the home.
Great blog, p.s. combat engineer here.
I can’t give 2 cents (they’ve done away with the penny) and my thoughts are rarely worth a nickel, but anyway, listen to God and search His Will. He won’t have you rush into anything. If a reconciliation is in the future, set rules. First rule, it needs to be based on a clean start, continue with the divorce on amicable grounds. You’re not picking up where you left off, you’re starting over. Two, she needs to prove she can take care of herself (including her family), which means never asking for your assistance in any matter, period. Three, she has to pay back with interest what she stole and the vet bills to boot. Four, anything else you require to be whole now, and for the confidence to continue toward reonciliation. If she balks, then getting back with you just because you’re you, isn’t her priority. Prayers.
rel, that’s pure wisdom. I’m gonna do a take off from your point.
Like rel said, continue the divorce. Finish the divorce. If you still think getting back together is a good idea, start the courtship from scratch. No living together. No sex, sex is like beer goggles that leads to justifying an ax murderers actions (she’s coming along just fine). Do the whole walk and talks on the beach. Long talks over meals. Long conversations on the phone. Now that you have the benefit of hindsight, ask tough questions. The whole reason for this path, is to get to know the real her, do your due diligence to make sure you’re not letting a demon into your inner sanctum. If that is too much hassle for her, that means she doesn’t think you’re worth the effort and certainly doesn’t love you enough.
Nuff from me. Good luck bro.
T Mike, if that isn’t the most intelligent thing I’ve read in this whole deal, it’s dang close. Bravo Zulu, brother.
Billy, read and heed. T Mike just did you a solid, as the kids say
Just NO. I don’t see any good coming of this. If you can remain friends then that’s great. Don’t jump back on the marriage go round. Note that the majority of commenters are advising the same
It’s you’re call, but, remember, she maliciously hurt your dog. In my opinion, that is not a person to be trusted…all other details aside.
When someone shows you who they really are, believe them. She’s showed you plenty. You owe nothing to her, and you should probably jam out of sight before you forget that.
BCE, I’ve been thinking about this all day and I have to be honest that I’m worried for you.
Here are 2 quotes that have direct bearing to this situation:
First from Jesus himself in Matthew 7:15-20
15 “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. 16 You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thorn bushes or figs from thistles? 17 Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. 19 Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. 20 Therefore by their fruits you will know them.
Second from Maya Angelou:
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
My first wife was a bitch on wheels and planned for several years to destroy me.
She ended up getting everything and the 3 kids and that wasn’t enough. She lied to everyone and told horrible lies about me and had the cops visit me several times on bullshit trying to get me arrested or worse. She showed by her actions who she REALLY is.
My second wife (who I’m still married to) is a sweet woman full of love. When she decided that she had to divorce her first husband she was honest and fair. She went through with him all of their stuff and split everything and if there was something he really wanted she let him have it. Then they split everything 50/50 which was fair because they both worked, made about the same money, etc. At the divorce they hugged and went their separate ways.
She showed who she really is and would a woman who REALLY TRULY loves you EVER :
1) Always enable her toxic adult daughter and always choose her needs over yours ?
2) Half ass work where YOU are the breadwinner ?
3) Have you burn your limited vacation doing jobs for her parents which should be done by professionals but weren’t because they are dumbasses with their money ?
4) Hurt your dog so bad she needed surgery and then didn’t pay for it and stole the money for the vet bills ?
5) Called the police and had your ass swatted hoping they’d find an illegal gun modification and your ass would go to prison or go out in a “blaze of glory” ?
6) Illegally drained all of your accounts (most of which was YOUR money) and left you broke as a joke and she DGAF ?
7) Took YOUR vehicle that YOU paid for, left you with nothing but a bicycle and told you “tough shit” ?
8) Said hateful things about your middle aged body and hurt your feelings and ego. This is especially cruel because she sure as shit doesn’t look like she’s 25.
9) Right after you broke up this guy shows up on your blog and challenges you and Snapper to a fight. I do believe that this was after the Swatting failed. I see her hand in this trying to get you arrested.
10) Finally ALL of this after YOU saved her live from cancer. If it wasn’t for you getting her good treatment, she would have gone the traditional chemo and radiation route and she’d be fucking DEAD now. That’s the thanks you get.
I don’t want to hurt your feelings but if we were having some beers, this is what I’d tell you.
She has shown over and over who she really is. DC gets her toxicity from her and when you slit up, the mask came off and she showed who she REALLY is. She tried to destroy you !!
BCE. you have to make your decisions on this but if you go back, I don’t think you’ll live 5 more years. All of the stress with her and DC’s bullshit will either give you a heart attack or the cancer will come back.
Fucking Print that shit out BC and Tape it on the Refrigerator so you see it every time you grab food or beer…
Jimmy Brother you nailed it that thing to the wall…Well Said and Well Done…
Let’s hope he listens…
This.
I would try to skull-fuck a rabid wolverine before I ever tried to get back with any of my ex-hoes.
Either mine got caught in the spam trap… or Tiny finally developed a sense of taste and deleted my poost! Assuming it’s the former and not the latter… here it is again:
JL above is right. Anybody that poasts here will know all the stats and probabilities of these things. They aren’t good. But sometimes that Hail Mary is thrown and caught. Maybe they CAN patch things up? Stranger things have happened.
Traumatic separations often induce mood swings. Medication and booze can exacerbate them. You might ride on high one day and be depressed into the pits of hell the next. If you’re coping with PTSD as well? You’re riding the lightening. As Terrence Popp would say – “try to think with the big head!”.
Be careful, BC.
Still not your monkeys, still not your circus. You’ve been a MUCH happier person since DC and her Mom split the scene. Life w/o drama. A bit of peace and quiet. Not having to spend ALL your time/effort putting out fires that THEY caused. I was stupid enough to let my ex come and go, and go and come. She was shocked after she married her New Man on the SAME day our do it yourself divorce came through. She gave me our 4 year old, which ended my Army career, but saved the kid. She’s been married 9 more times, still a whack job. She left, tried to ruin you, you KNOW who she is, and what she spawned. You ought to think with your big head for a change. Good fortune to you Sir.
HOLY SHIT!
9 fucking times? HOLY SHIT!
who would want anything that used? 9 marriages means 900 cocks have been run up it before she picked one idiot to cuck for her. it also screams PSYCHO BITCH!
semen is a living thing. every loser male that spurted its juice into her is part of her DNA forever. what a nasty filthy brew that is.
RUN! RUN! RUN! and NEVER LOOK BACK!
Oh yeah. The guy she married the DAY our divorce was final was a real looser. E4 communications guy. He was #2, she divorced him, tried to get back with me. Fuck NO, Married him again (#3), dumped him for his best friend (#4). Found out he was wearing her clothes, dumped him, remarried # 3,4,( making him #5). Keep in mind she was flying back/forth from CONUS to Germany on ‘Sam’s dime. I sorta lost track, but I understand she’s now with #9, or #10. My Son occasionally “talks” with one of his half brothers on FB. I got a friend request from the Ex. Ha Ha haaaaaa. No Way I’m getting anywhere close to her again. Side note, I’ve been Very Happily married for 45 years now.
Respect, Loyalty & Peace. The only things a man needs in a relationship.
Ask yourself which of these things she violated and if you are willing to tolerate her violating AGAIN. Then decide.
Best of luck.
Ha!
The LORD works in mysterious ways. I was sad when you two split up, hope you can make it work.
o.k., as I’ve read everyone’s thoughts… and here is what this ol’ buzzard remembered… Billy, how.does it change your thought if you see it as a probe of your defenses? And don’t forget – she knows how to read and “infiltrate” here.
Never trust anything that can bleed for seven days and not die. My ex left at gun point. I’m better off for it. Trust your gut, and shit will sort itself out…or not. Worst case scenario is you die, and your mortal problems are over.
Lots of wisdom and advice from the (predominantly?) guys here. Don’t forget that she-who-must-not-be-named is probably reading all of them, and formulating her arguments to rebut.
When I first opened up the page and saw 76 comments I thought “Holy fuck what did he write about?” Now that I see what all the controversy is about one thing comes to mind, something written by a young lady who is what is now described as a “Trad wife”. “A wife’s place and duty in a marriage is to provide an orderly and loving home for her husband. Men spend all day at work solving problems and do not need to be presented with mor problems to solve when they get home.” We should all be so lucky.
Yeah, a lot of us here obviously had a visceral reaction to what we read “between the lines” from this post. Lots of hard earned experience amongst the commentariat here regarding marriages/long term relationships gone wrong, and it brought out a lot of justified concern about what was going on. BCE isn’t dumb, but matters of the heart tend to cloud sound judgement, and I (along with many others on here) don’t want to see a good man get burned.
A lot of truth in that, BRD. Good man! :thumbs up:
In times such as these, I like to sit in a dark room, in a comfy chair and put on some music (I like Stan Getz or Thelonius Monk for stuff like this) to soothe/entertain the conscious mind whilst “chewing” on a deeper issue. But that’s me.
As a side note, Slayer works just as well too. LMAO
@JB_Honeydew, if you like jazz, try this on for size (I have this CD in my vast collection, and find it superlative). The visual aspect of the video is also excellent, if you favor high end audio gear as I do. And no, that isn’t my system (regrettably).
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=iEXpDpA9WJs&pp=ygULU2Fuc3VpIGIyMDk%3D
Archie Shepp, very nice 😎.
The system is quite badass too. Just way out of my budget, but that’s kinda like an original AC Cobra….cool as fuck to both see and hear.
I would rather Slaughter to Prevail and Orbit Culture…keeps you on the edge of wanting to fuck something up at a moment’s notice.
Quite true BRD. Affairs of the heart can lead an otherwise logical and well reasoned man to make decisions he normally would not. I was in my early 50s before I could exert enough control to retain my thinking ability. One girl had a problem older girl and a somewhat retarded younger boy. The girl quite frankly bothered me more, she was a 17 yr old future DC. Last time I saw the woman I put her on a plane home after withstanding a half day of crying from her. I was civil and such but would NOT change my mind.
2nd time, very nice blonde girl from CA, worked as a contractor for the Navy in San Diego on F18 Super Hornets. Smart, gave me my space, no demands, was willing to eventually move to Texas. I came very close to proposing. Had an older boy I liked, former Ranger in the Stan. Younger boy was 21, had no DL, no job and was waiting for someone to put him through college. Ugh. That queered the deal for me. We parted amicably but as some have said in this thread, momma bear usually will “not” drop problem offspring for you. Vis a vis the DC situation. She’s a part of this equation forever and ever, amen.
Shooter
Yeah, which is why I no longer give out detailed unsolicited advice. It usually goes ignored, and I get to say, “Told you so.”
Got a cousin in a situation not unlike BC’s situation. Probably worse. He told me last year he was going to divorce her. He still hasn’t and he’s still miserable and she’s still crazy.
I am hoping he wrote this post and turned the comments back on just to read everyone’s opinion. Which is running like 100 to 1 against.
“Stupid is as stupid does” ring a bell Big Guy? GET THE FUCKING DIVORCE, see more of her true colors and then decide if a “reconciliation” is warranted. Dollars to donuts the real crazy will show when DC drops dependent #3. And MOVE to a new AO even if just temporarily. Put the house sale proceeds in an offshore account. I would not be surprised if hidden liens are already on the abode barring a sale.
Spin
P.S. GET THE FUCKING DIVORCE!
DUDE. No, just no. Full stop.
You are caught in the Devil’s tractor beam. Chew an arm off, cut off a foot, do whatever the fuck you have to do to escape your return trip to Hell. You have already lived it with her and her nutcase family, why the fuck sign up for another go around? And “Ricky” was not your friend, he was/is a tool of the Devil.
RUN AWAY. No contact, period. EOM.
A wife should be supportive, good natured and modest. Only if all three terms are met is she suitable for consideration. Unfortunately, the Good Book didn’t address shack ups, which are damn near as bad for losses. In my case I lost a 65 El Camino with a 454 due the the cunt, along with some good high altitude gear. But things can always be worse with evil women. Parting thought is that a Christian woman respects chain of command, aka the Golden Goose with the j-o-b. If that is not the case, and trash kids are a definite red rag, then bear that in mind as well. We really can’t fix stupid in our society, our legal and commercial systems make too much money off disfunction. Dealing with mental illness, and any woman that fouls her nest meets that diagnosis, is pretty much impossible without the legal and medical means to enforce compliance. The Gov’t closed the asylums that provided definitive care for mental problems, and if they won’t do it, the citizen sure as the dickens cannot. Not without Kennedy money anyway. Best of luck
For years I’ve read this blog. Multiple times a week Ive read the shit show that is daily life for our gracious host. I’ve always bit my tongue and refused to comment on my thoughts. It was none of my business.
No more.
Dude, almost all of your near-daily hell was foisted upon you via your marriage.
Let it go. It’s over. Not only is it over but it should be obvious by now how bad it was.
No advice.
My ex. Wonderful woman. She has issues, as do I. But she is just flat.out mean. I saw it when we met, but set it aside, thinking that she was strong. Nope. Total bitch. There was a kid involved, not mine. That is the complicator.
Spent a year and some together, then the last ten years fighting over stupid. Finally broke it off a month ago, but she will make.contact again, patterns and shit. I am done. She never will be, as she knows that I still.love her. Don’t get me wrong, done with her shit, but I still gaf. Why? I, like all men, am an idiot.
Pussy is heap big medicine. Once you remember that, you are on your way to free. Find a new cum dump. You will be better off, promise!
tFat is right, as usual.
thank you Tom762
my pop told me when i was old enough to understand there are 3 things that will destroy a man and try not to let that happen..
1. alcohol
2. drugs
3. pussy
and this is why I tell guys to move 5 states away from your EX. it makes your life a whole lot easier
when there is distance involved. if they close and there is booze or beer involved, things tend to blur
like your thinking.
4. government cheese addiction
Once a man’s addicted to the government cheese, they’re forevermore the government’s bitch.
Men will kill each other in a muddy trench because they believe to be serving something greater.
Some time later those men might break bread. Or they might remain blades to throats until old scratch fetches their bones for the after.
But they will respect the other man enough to kill him proper and leave it at that.
Split tails will kill a man and resurrect him from the ashes just to kill him again over roasted chicken and cornbread. A family recipe, she says.
She will lay with him while the spick hitman she bought with money pinched from his own pockets waits in the alley to stick a knife in his throat while the cops play the theme song from wrong place wrong time.
She will send him to war against his Brothers because the next most powerful thing to God in this fallen world is that split tail and a man’s own penchant for honor and sacrifice and the wet wick of potential posterity.
There is a reason the joos go after our women.
The serpent is still inside the wire. It’s why we were given Brothers. To turn us not from the snake but from the charms of its harem.
Find your boys and get building. War is here. A war on two fronts is for the eurofags. Our Fathers gave us two oceans. Let’s not waste it more than has already been done. Triage is a gift. Embrace it.
BCE, some bitches are crazy ass mofo drama queens who will go to extraordinary lengths to fuck you up. Case in point, exBFF (ex cause he killed himself), his ex did the reconcile seeboon dance and he swallowed it three times. She only did this to give him aids as she got it from some slimebag she was boning. He got it, in spades and ate one when it got bad. It’s been 9 years and I still think of good times we had. He was smart (top school MBA) but let the little fella do to much thinking. He also made a lot of money and it’s surmised that she was pissed the gravy train was going to stop. Don’t get suckered like he did. Get the divorce, change your AO and be done with her/it.
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Deliberately infecting someone with AIDS?
That should be murder one.
Absolutely despicable. Special place in Hell for traitors like that.
Reading all of this makes me wonder what happened to that admonition from BCE’s attorney about the blog posting?
Did BCE’s attorney know of and approve this meeting?
After all the shit she “allegedly” has done any meetings would be in the presence of my attorney.
BCE,
She deliberately hurt your dog.
She deliberately hurt your dog.
She DELIBERATELY hurt your dog.
That is what you need to remember when you are wavering about how to move forward.
That right there. Anyone who does that is simply, no excuses, evil. Next time, and there’d be one, it’ll be too late for surgery. Had one of those here in NC a few years ago. Took her deployed husband’s dog out to the woods with her new boyfriend and they shot it repeatedly with a .22 until it was dead. Stupid enough to record it and shared it with someone. Got ID’d. She took herself out eventually with all the hate coming her way. A small measure of justice, but didn’t make it right for the dog’s owner or the dog, who died just so she could hurt him.