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An Old Soldier's Rant. You don't like it? Go Away. Life is Too Short and Your Opinion Matters Not.
And so it begins. Be prepared to be swatted at any time. Good luck.
It -JUST- ‘almost’ happened….
OMFG
Hillsborough’s finest showed up…
At least they weren’t complete assholes
FFS, she sure didn’t waste any time playing that card, did she? Please be careful, man. Sounds like shit is primed to go ballistic.
Holy fuck.
What’s the new account for PayPal? Sent 50 to the old, can do the same for the new.
Hey.
Take a breath; take a walk. Get off the internet and calm down. You rearing poorly doesn’t help you.
At all.
Reacting; not rearing
The Berg is wise. Listen to the Berg.
Amen Brother listen to the Berg…He is wisdom…You have to step back and look at the big picture otherwise you will end up in the pokey or dead… Sorry you are going through this but I think everyone here could see this brewing for some time especially after she didn’t listen to you about DC and we all told you to bail then… Well hopefully you can get out of this with some coin and sanity left and get the hell out of the suburbs…
What a disappointment for Gretchen to pull this. As a woman, I make my own money-I don’t need to steal it from a veterinary fund for the dog. This is why I never believe these “strong woman” actors. Stand on her own 2 feet. And let your lawyer know.
Let us know the new account.
not at all surprised. as i previously noted, sometimes crazy skips a generation. sometimes it doesnt skip a generation. that clan was going to drag bce down. now hes done with them. good times.
Hit me with the new PP when you get it up. Don’t smite anyone out of reflex. Watch six.
Let me know if I need to try and pull it from Paypal.
Fucking pisses me off, that money was for YOU not her.
Dude, lock down any and ALL bank accounts, lock down credit cards,etc.
When the divorce was filed, my Ex TRIED to drain any accounts she had access too but luckily for me I was prepared.
I hate it that EVERY FUCKING TIME in a divorce they show their true colors.
Oh and I live just a few hours north of you, so I can make a trip down to your county and have no problem filing grand theft charges on her ass. Tell her to give you that money that she fucking STOLE back to you pronto.
Apparently all she needed from you all along was money.
Well shit. Don’t think there’s much I should say here right now.
BC, please stay cool and proceed cautiously. Maybe sanitize your last post a bit, for the sake of not adding grist to the mill if things really go pear shaped.
BCE, women love to provoke because they LOVE drama. It validates them and spins their inner hamster wheel to absurd velocities. You win by not giving in to her, not reacting to her provocations.
You can’t help anyone or yourself if you get dragged in to a hoosegow. Do not give her attorney free wins. The internet is not the place to argue a divorce. Any powers of attorney that you may have granted her, consider rescinding them. Make notes of all that she does.
Women know they dun goofed when you go radio silent. Keep your own counsel. Channel Sun Tzu.
just what he said above. go silent. move your stuff quietly somewhere else.
she just trying to stir up shit. do not react to it. think about selling the damn house and moving the hell
out of that area. people used to laugh when I told them to move 5 states away from your EX.
not so much anymore. I thought you already killed any cards, accounts what ever you had with her.
anyway. sorry to hear this latest drama. cut ties and run time now.
Absolutely, except she left him with no vehicle. BCE, you have any one local you can call in a favor with who can turn up with a truck and help you get shit cleared out pronto? And a place to stash it all as well, needless to say. This is a seriously bad situation, being stuck at home and no immediate means to “get the show on the road”. I’d say the really important stuff needs to happen tomorrow, and spend the rest of the weekend getting t’s crossed and i’s dotted.
The police could show up again anytime, with no real cause (just her claiming you’ve made threats or some such BS) and toss your joint, potentially hauling off with the good stuff. Again, I don’t know Florida law on this, but if there is anyway you can get fucked by the system at her behest, it will be tried.
It would be a good time for vacation.
Change the locks. Change your WIFI password. Cancel her phone of you can. This is war, take precautions.
Um… Get your guns gone to a safe place, like Cowboy’s, ASAP. And all the other things that go with them, including your flammenwerfer, your extensive stash of MREs and other preps, all the ammo and such. Get Sap to rent a friggin UHaul and haul it out there pronto.
Well, at least we know where DC gets it from.
Apple + Tree = WTFFT!!!
WTFF = What The Flaming Fuck!!!
it might be safer to stash your “stuff” somewhere else that “she” doesn’t know about.
one thing or trick they all pull is to try to get any buds you know against you.
ask me how I know this. anything in “HER” name you will have to dump/lose or charges will be brought against you (fast). if that Smith pistol she gave you is still in her name, give it back or sell it quick. think federal charges at the least with that. and yes. I seen it happen before.
DO NOT HANG ON TO IT. IT WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU IF YOU DO.
plan on it. have you friend “gun girl” hold on to it for you. if she will that is.
go over everything and then recheck it again. last thing you want is to give her anything she can use against you in court.
check six.
Damn- stunned
Dude, I’m really sorry. Honesty is soooo crucial in any relationship, and if she hid prior marriages from you…? Praying.
Friend once told me (cuz I needed it) any pain that brings you closer to God is better than any comfort that takes you away from Him. Lots of scriptures explain this, but it’s not popular in most churches. Doesn’t matter to me though, since it’s the word of the only good and true God.
I still have to remember that often.
Keep us updated, but assume she’s reading this, along with the idiotic Micahs of the internet . DON’T take the bait. Some fool is NOT worth it. Imagine being in their shoes and saying that?! Do it, and you’ll realize how pathetic and sad they are.
Read a Psalm every morning and a Proverb every night. Ask God what they mean, cuz many saw the dead raised to life and still would not believe. He alone reveals His truth. I say this from experience.
Micah is someone she knows. No surprise he lives in Florida.
No doubt.
Cowards always emerge when they think someone’s down, which is why I hope Smalls won’t let them bait him.
Doesn’t mean that others can’t take note of the bastard.
OSINT can be fun.
You never truly know a woman until you divorce her. Hide your shit, go radio silence and let the lawyer work his voodoo. It takes a year to get divorced most times unless you can get her to agree to sign papers early on agreed terms. Count your lucky stars there is no child support. Take the hit, get freed up and find yourself a friend with benefits. Life is short bro, moving on….
STFU and I mean RFN. If you post it on the internet, it is forever.
FUUUUUUUCK!
Good advice above. BE COOL, CALM and SMART about your new shit storm.
YOU CAN DO ANYTHING for awhile, do it low key.
P.S. Betrayal by a loved one is the hardest to handle. You need to figure out how to do the detached-from-your-emotions, Budda-like, Zen thing. Viewing from a “disinterested”, 30,000 ft. view point, gives more outlooks. Hide your anger publicly. “Be the cool.”
And hide yer stuff.
She must be fucking nuts to stab you in the back like that, act (defend) as if she IS vindictively nuts. Hopefully she reconsiders her poor choices once she cools down and walks it back some.
My two cents…..take care of your health. When I did that dance, the stress actually caused me to have a heart attack in my early 50s. Friggin stress is a sneaky, evil bitch.
I too have big shoulders and had half a dozen balls in the air at any given time. I never saw it coming. Then one Saturday morning, I thought someone stabbed me in the chest with a steak knife. As a matter of fact, the 12 year anniversary of that is just a few weeks away.
It sounds like she brought a world of chaos into your life. Let it all go. Very last bit.
Oh, and don’t be afraid to launch a star cluster if you need some back up.
Let me know if the dime I dropped into the PP SP’s bucket made it to you or not.
If you got it, all is good.
If not, if The Grinch got her grubbies on it, let me know, I’ll “discuss” with PP to get it back.
“Stay Calm, and Gather Evidence”.
I hate to see this. Divorce is painful and expensive. Maybe after you all cool off things will get better. Maybe not.
But there’s a lot of good advice above. You need to do some OpSec. When mine happened a couple years ago, I found she’d been planning it for awhile – skimming dough to pay the lawyers. I agree with Mark above. I got the same advice. You need to make stuff vanish. She probably doesn’t have a list which will help for inventory.
But, like my chinese dry cleaner says – “You prolly betta off!”
One of the things I noticed within the first months was that I had money. Since she wasn’t there using all my dough for her expenses as well, my checking account was flush with cash. I opened a checking and savings and transferred all the money out to the new account, and changed my direct deposit. I only put enough cash in the old joint account to cover auto bills, like the mortgage.
My expenses are far, far lower now. Fuck the car, BTW. Ain’t in your name, you don’t have possession. Good thing here is that you’ll get 1/2 the value of that car back. Leave it with her, it’ll lessen your tab. She should’ve thought about that. One of the last things my old lady did as she was planning this was to trade in the Lexus she bought, for a cheap Toyota in both our names. I got suckered there.
The other thing I noticed, and it took a year or so, was that there was no white-trash drama that I was immersed in any longer (from her side of the family). That’s not a thing in mine, so I’m grateful for the peace. Your BP will probably plummet.
This piece by Vox Day really helped – https://voxday.net/2023/06/23/a-word-to-the-fearful/
” There is a saying: if you love someone, set them free. You can’t control her actions, much less her desires. You can’t control the legal system. You can’t control your feelings. You can’t control anything except your own actions.”
FWIW, he was right. Not two years later, I’m better off in every way. Got money in the bank, cool house, cool dogs, and a new younger woman who’s a vast improvement. The marketplace is in your favor, my man.
(BTW – first thing I did was change the locks. Spent a chunk of change to do so. Then, had to change them back when my lawyer told me that under Texas law, she had a right to access so I had to change them back. Don’t know how FLA is. Texas, you are presented with a code to follow when you are served.)
Get some wyze cameras for when you aren’t there.
Repeat the advice to move your stuff. Worked with a guy who went through a divorce. First thing the then-wife did was hire some guys to beat him unconscious. When he came to the house was empty.
He was able to get payback by letting the two states she was claiming unemployment from know about each other AND the names of the places she was working at.
Go to ground. After losing my life partner of 30+ years about a year ago, it took time to find the next direction. People can and do offer advice, but ultimately you set the direction. Just as with any mission planning if you set the goals toward your preferred outcome and work towards that, you don’t have time for the rage. That may come later, but for now a base of operation’s and simplify every aspect to accomplish where you want to be in 2 weeks, months or years.
The hardest question I had was what made me happy. Still don’t have a clue, but the adventure seeking that out becomes more interesting every day. Find the blessings in your friends, blog friends, family extended or otherwise. At times like this life is to short to waste a minute with could have beens. Lots more interesting for what could be.
Prayers for wisdom inc!
BCE-I am sorry you are going through this. I’ve been floating around the drain some this last year, too.
Please look up Terrence Popp on https://www.redonkulas.com/. He’s BTDT and has some kind of package he put together for dudes in your position. It’s a strategy for protecting yourself in a divorce using what he calls ADMINISTRATIVE VIOLENCE.
Like one of his first pieces of advice was to visit the nearest casino, leave your phone on, call your friends, buy drinks on your debit card, and pull out as much cash as you can because your new gambling addiction is a real monkey on your back and you couldn’t help draining your account.
Take care and best wishes.
Second this! I was going to suggest Sarn’t Popp and his “Administrative Violence” book myself. His story is the shit. Also for everyone, look on YT for his short documentary “Purple Heart’s Final Beat”. He’s saved a battalion’s worth of men from ending themselves.
and please do not buy into that “I made a mistake “game. had a friend that went thru that and she ended up taking even more from him. like a bigger, better house and car. plus cash and more. if they did it once. they do it again.
again, hide your “stuff” . keep quiet as much as you can. call YOUR FRIENDS and let them know what is up. like most “ladies” they will try to “cry” on your friends shoulders if they can.
be careful. praying for you and your 4 legged buddies.
To the Post Office and have them put a hold on your mail, and you pick it up in person.
Suggest South central KY, like Bowling Green area.
That’s another thing. Carried mail for 30 years, some women (and it’s never guys who pull this) will turn in a change of address on your mail, directing it to themselves. I’ve seen it a number of times, so maybe you change it first, to someone reliable. Seriously, that’s one she can screw you on.
Got a couple of pretty much(currently) empty storage units in Pinellas if you need hidey-holes for breathing space. Small U-Haul trucks are pretty reasonable right now.
Never got married, but breaking up is difficult regardless. Guard your shit and get cash out of the joint accounts.
Best bit of advice has been given already, radio silence. They say jacked up messages to provoke a response, don’t play that game!!
Don’t go looking for Micah. Sounds like he might be a large part of this so avoidance is warranted. You have peeps, so the policy is valid.
Bitchez! Man! Cut their nose.off to spite the face, and then argue they did the right thing cause reasons. I think the real reason is they are just fucking stupid.
Tom762
Decades ago, as things spiraled towards divorce, my ex and I were arguing and my step-daughter went downstairs and called 911. When the cops showed up she told them that I threatened her mom with a gun. They then asked if I had any in the house, and I told them no. She then said that I did. I reached into my wallet and pulled out a receipt from the local gunsmith showing that he had received the entire list of my weapons for cleaning and adjustment from a week before. I had told the shop owner that things were getting bad and I was worried. He stored them for me for 11 months at no charge.
Because my stepdaughter was a minor they didn’t arrest her, but the cops told me outside that they were filing a report and to request a copy at the station house a few days later. My lawyer was able to use that report to persuade the judge to side in my favor in the end.
Do you have a storage locker? Consider relocating various things. Maybe Cowboy or others might help out. Even if the Diva isn’t looking to punch below the belt, the lawyers will try.
My suspicions are that DC has a big hand in this, and will fight dirty. Be careful and cover your ass.
BCE:
My daughter is a lawyer and always says the 4 biggest days in your life are when you are born, die, get married and get divorced. She also says that seizing assets is the order of the day. Check to see if a lien has been filed on the house. You may own it but she can screw with you trying to sell it as extortionable asset. Her lawyer will fight dirty, she will fight dirty (have friend where the soon to be ex slept with her lawyer, his lawyer and the judge. She got everything.) Be prepared.
On comms, run silent, run deep. Pop up every now and then to let the tribe know you are alive. We all understand radio silence.
Many prayers to you, the doggies and Sapper.
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