Greetings and Salutations
Got a Tropical Depression circling overhead.
LOTS of rain.
Matches my mood.
Me and The Hair Diva have ‘parted ways’ citing ‘irreconcilable differences’. Truth be told, I just……… well……….. I got to do what’s right for me.
There’ve been a lot of things that’ve gone on, and I’m not going into them. Thankfully I’m hoping we can be civil about this, and we’ll leave it at that. After all, no kids thankfully, even tho it hurts.
Sooooo yeah…
My only bitch is she took the car that -I- have been paying on as her Dad was the one with the credit (mine and hers was absolute shytte at the time of purchase) so it’s in his name, so she’s claiming that, leaving me wheel-less. She also wants me to keep paying for it, but we’ll see… fucking thing was/is ALMOST fully paid off dammit…
I already have a Lawyer.
So enough on that.
I will say I -do- feel a bit of relief.
TOO MUCH DRAMA.
I don’t even care that she’s putting the spin out there that I was some sort of abusive alcoholic asshole… Chicks will be chicks.
Whatever lets her sleep at night.
I don’t mind, ‘cos she don’t matter anymore.
Now?
I’m IRL able to travel/relocate and do whatever the fuck I want.
I even got offers on the house.
Costa Rica anyone?
Might be time to ‘Expat’ again.
With Bells On.
I mean it is my handle amiright?
Sorry about that… this’s as Yon calls it, “a mind-dump sans edit”… to continue, I do have to make an observation about this week/weekend/holiday however…
The 4th here in Florida is USUALLY a full-on fireworks fun-festivus of fuckery for about a week BEFORE the ACTUAL 4th of July, all the way up to, and then about two-three days AFTER, as everyone expends all their ‘stuff’ they didn’t shoot off before or ON the 4th itself.
Mind you, this’s rain OR shine.
So the rain this year is NOT a factor that I know of.
There also is USUALLY is a PLETHORA of ‘fireworks selling tents’ ALLLLLL over the county.
This year?
Not so fuckin’ mucho Kemosabe.
And as far as fireworks?
What fireworks!?!
It’s as quiet as a Trappist Monastery out there.
Not. A. Single. Ka-Boomy-Boom.
Nada.
El-Zilcho.
Nichts.
Zip.
I have me a very stronk feeling that this is economically related.
People are having issues putting food on the table.
I’m pretty damned sure that NO ONE has the financial wherewithal to be spending their hard-earned dinero on ‘stuff that goes BOOM’ for shits n’ grins…
Which to me is a BIG warning sign.
‘Cos normally?
By now it’d sound like Normandy Beach out there
And it’s not.
Let me know in the comments if you’re seeing the same thing(s) in y’all’s neck of the woodline.
More Later
Big Country
Damn dude, I’m sorry to hear that.
I don’t know why people need to go negative when you break up.
Let’s be honest here, you SAVED HER LIFE with the cancer. If it wasn’t for you and having her get with Dr Sammizat, she’d be FUCKING DEAD after getting chemo and radiation with some quack.
YOU bailed her ass out over and over and over with DC’s BS and her 2 grans.
You spent a fortune on both of them and bent over backwards (far more than most men) trying to help her. You let DC live with you and I don’t have to start listing all of the BS DC did to you.
You bent over backwards running up to the Villages to help HER parents.
BCE, you have your faults as do we all but you were damn good to that woman where it counted and she has no reason to shit talk you. As an aside my Ex still shit talks me 14 years after the divorce. Anything bad that happens in her life today is always somehow my fault and always I am a rotten no good SOB.
Not slamming Gretchen but with DC and her parents it was constant stress and drama for you. There is a reason that you were husband #3. She will always have DC in her life and will always have drama and BS because of it. There are many women who blow up their marriages because their kids are assholes and they refuse to set boundaries and sadly I think she is one of them.
But now once this all washes out you have an opportunity for a new life somewhere else. There is nothing keeping you in Tampa and I think you said Sapper was moving out of state to life near his son.
Sell the house and take your fur babies somewhere new where you can be happy.
Just be careful being an expat, the World wide economy is going into the shitter and you don’t want to be a gringo in a foreign country if the SHTF.
ACKCHULLY I think I was either Hubby #4 or possibly #5 which I did NOT know until later….
#1 was the OtherGran who’s cool AF w/me
#2 was her ‘rebound dood’ who she was with for only 6-8 months
#3 was the dood who accidentally died, which then -I- showed up.
HOWEVER there IS evidence that I’m ackchully #4, 5 or 6…
Go Figure
Yeah, they like to hide shit like that as you might not have gotten involved had you known. Maybe there was a divorce that wasn’t final and your marriage is null and void? I had one girlfriend I really liked but after I really got to know her and found out I could have potentially been #6, I had to bail. Frankly I wondered if your relationship would last given that she couldn’t figure out that DC was a toxic mess that would never change. Hard boundaries make for a saner, simpler life. Hope you navigate this one successfully and come out on the other side with a better life ahead.
BC, I am sorry to hear of what is going on. You reached your limit, men have them (much to the surprise of wahmen) and the wahmen will eventually find those limits. You went above and beyond, go forth and enjoy your life of peace.
Resources that I found that helped me gain perspective in my own not completely different dissolution were (and are):
Youtubes by Dr. Orion Taraban. Seriously. His audience is mainly men. Women would do well to listen in, but they probably won’t. That, and “Hoemath”. There is some solid structure and understanding in there that may or may not be a revelation.
Women do not seem to understand that the men in their lives are there to protect them from their own decisions. Women are also Schrodinger’s feminist, either strong/independent/don’t need no man or a victim, depending on which state of being gives them advantage.
Be well, there is light at the end of this turmoil.
Proverbs 25:24
+1000 to hoe_math. Eye opening. Things you kind of understand how, but not the why. Should be required viewing for all men.
Youtubers I follow and which have been very helpful to my understanding of what ot means to be a man who likes women:
Dr. Orion Taraban (psychacks)
Hoe_math
John Griffin (life 2.0)
Michael Sartain
Rolo Tomassi (rational male)
Entrepreneurs in cars
Alexander Grace
Jedidiah Bila
I am divorced from the secretary of war and the undersecretary of war. Bye Felicia. Sucks now will suck less each day moving forward. Soldier on.
Here in North Texas, much boom last night. Boom stands everywhere. McKinney saw some retarded no kings shite, but this is freedom Texas and not blue hives.
Considering “expat” myself or maybe back to Florida. Originally from outside of Gainesville. Not sure.
Keep that chin up.
I am from Gainesville. Trust me, it ain’t the same as you remember. 2015, the best view I had of Gainesville was in the rear view mirror as I headed south on 441. It WAS a great place to be a kid when I was a kid.
Stay away from all of the Central and South American countries. They smile and love your money, but hate your guts behind your back. You’ll ALWAYS be a rich gringo outsider. I’ve heard a lot of horrible stories from ex-pats.
Sorry about that for you. Also happy for you since you had a ton of shit that you shouldn’t have had to deal with.
Damn, dude, I’m very sorry. JimmyPx summed up things nicely, though. You busted your ass for her, literally saved her life (and ta tas) from the Big C, danced with the devil to shield her from DC, and moved heaven and Earth to be an awesome Papi–and now she’s throwing all that away (and claiming the car!). At least you can hold your head up high knowing you did the right things. Now you can quit wasting time on her and find someone deserving of you.
Oh, and agree on the ex-pat thing–as effed-up as the US currently is, I wouldn’t want to be outside it for a while.
It apparently doesnt matter how well you treat modern women. I have also recently experienced this myself. Women seem to be immune to accountability, and the “one awshit wipes out all your attaboys” rule is applied by them. The result: men are assholes to them, and why not? While we do not do the right thing by them in order to get a return on our “investment”, there is no forgiveness to be found among them either. Might as well be the “bad boy” they pshchologically crave. So be it.
Having been in the same situation with the Handmaiden of Satan and HER kid, and having done the exact same thing about it.
I believe that such life situations are another rung on the ladder on your way up to better.
Be strong my brother. Life will be. It always is.
SF
The guys above covered it well. That pressure cooker couldn’t bleed off enough pressure with Gretch, apparently deciding to dive in head first over the never ending dangerous drama saga with DC. That had financial ruin, stroke/heart attack, with your name written all over it.
It’ll take a day or 6, but you’ll handle it appropriately.
Set strict limits on alcohol pain relief.
Well fuck me. I am so sorry and yet so happy for you at the same time. Almost always when the crazy bitch that you didnt recognize as such leaves, you look back later, get down on your knees and thank the gods/Kromm/God/whoever for your good fortune. I know you prob think the shit of me, but I truely do feel for you on this. Been there, done that, and knew almost immediately that it was the best for me. The hell is over (except for the shouting/lawyers). And for whats its worth, I always thought she oozed White Trash and that you deserved better. ……………………………………oh, and dont take the advice some will give you about making drastic life changes Right Now. Finish all this drama off, STAY SOBER (give her nothing to use against you), record EVERY SINGLE FUCKING MOMENT that she is in sight of you, chill a bit, THEN decide where you want the next step of your life to take you. Hang in there man- the pups are depending on you.
“That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations…”
Insert relationship for Government and this probably hits the nail on the head. Best of luck, you’re doing the right thing. After all, you wouldn’t have the kinds of friends you write about if you weren’t always giving your best.
Ffs, not you too.
I shit you not, just this past saturday night my own missus and I had one hell of a kumite over some REALLY stupid shit and now we’re on the rocks. Big ‘D’ is pending…deciding factor is whether or not we can afford it.
I swear, I don’t know if it’s the weather, something in the water, or something else entirely…but it seems women these days are going fucking batshit crazy en masse.
Drop me a line if you want to chat.
JL,
Most states have a uncontested DIY divorce, where it gets worked out in mandatory mediation. This maybe easy or hard depending upon how entangled you are. Sometimes the wahmen just want to see the world burn. Destructive nihilism looks terrible on people, the kids will figure it out eventually.
Remember, if you give in when she gives you an ultimatum, you are training her how to treat you. I learned the hard way. next one while in the vetting phase will get the Rich Cooper “red card/yellow card” paradigm to control that. YT “entrepreneurs in cars”.
Remember, every day a whole new crop of wahmen turn 30. Men generally have a much longer glide path than women, so take care of yourself so you can enjoy.
Roger that. I appreciate the advice.
I’m one of what may be the few canucks who post on BCE’s ‘blegg’ once on awhile.
My circumstances are a bit complicated, but we’ve been married 17 years and are financially tied to quite a few things. We are seeing that, in our situation, a divorce would thoroughly ruin both of us financially. To say nothing of what it would do to our kids.
The good news is that we are at least still talking and can engage in constructive dialogue. If it were more toxic than that, pulling the ripcord might be the only solution. But, it looks like we are not there at the moment.
Thanks again.
sorry to hear this. yes, I know it hurts now. but in time you going to be a lot better off. no DC to worry about. or her kids. as I have said before, damn I know bad luck. but you have it in spades
here the thing I have seen before. a lady with kids will always put her kids before you.
then there are her parents, that one is kind of “iffy” as it depends on her and them (??)
as for taking your ride, yeah. my Ex did that too. and I had the kids. yeah, she turned into a real bitch.
so, sell the damn house. change your phone number and move to the hills somewhere else.
downsize and your life will be easier by far.
life is just so much easier when you not dealing with drama all the time. why else do you think I moved to the hills ? and my kids do not know where or have my phone number.
if you make bank on the house, find a buy a older rebuilt ride from the 1960-70’s. no GPS or other crap. downsize on the house size too. you don’t need 3-4 bedrooms and baths. do you really want
people to come and visit/stay with you ? I don’t anymore. had enough of that shit over the years.
find a place where you and the pups and cats will be happy. that might take some time
I’m really sorry BC. You really tried, but you were walked on, headed for a coronary, and the drama was Neverending. Take a breather. Nothing tying you to that area.
Damn
Keep on your toes lawyers will find the smallest thing to burn you with
FFS brother! I could spill a drum of ink on the subject but I won’t.
I’m sorry this happened too you, had my own shit storm several years ago and sometimes there is nothing that helps aside from bros telling ya keep yer chin up.
Her loss.
“BCE” Crying again.
I volunteer with Vets. My Lady works Vet Non-Prof for Years.
QYB or refund my $50.
Right down the road if you wanna get anything sorted.
Really!?!
Bit of a sociopath are you?
In Wimauma off of SR 674 on Spectrum WiFi?
If yer feeling squirrelly big shot, let me know ya gutless fuck
Otherwise GFY Thanks for playing
lfg
Come again cockfag?
direct email son
phone number included in All of em.
So, Dis You?:
Micah G Jones – 4621 Dakeman Rd Lakeland, FL 33813
Phone(s) (813) 428-2929 Cell, (813) 282-7131 Landline.
Age 47
Wife named Andrea (if she’s still around)
Maiden name Albritton
No kids (thank Christ… you didn’t pollute the gene pool)
Bad Idea to be that stupid online.
Esp. when you fuck w/an Intel Squirrel
Should I go on? You got me is sort of a vendetta sort of mood…
Provoking a guy who’s lost EVERYTHING means he has NOTHING LEFT TO LOSE YOU FUCKTARD.
Or should I let the gang here have at you?
After all… being a fucktard -should- hurt
BCE, dont let that guy drag you into shit that will cost you money or trouble down the road. He was disrespectful but your friends still respect you. Oh, there are a lot less fireworks here in mid michigan.
Damn sorry to hear this, man. Jimmy PX is right for sure.
I’d say take a bit of time, get your shit in one sock… first rule of sustainable shit-giving is to stay alive to give a shit another day, and you’re someone who gives a shit. It kinda seemed like things were coming to a head when DC came back on-scene and your posting dropped off. Whatever happens I think your stress level needs to be cut back.
Also, MJ’s a faggot. Internet hardos are all secretly massive fans of the cock.
5 mins away, and bring the bitch “snapper” as witness.
WTF is wrong with you ?
BCE just said that he’s getting a divorce from his wife of 10 fucking years.
He’s obviously upset and his World is crashing around him and he feels like he’s got nothing to lose.
Now you want to mess with him like an asshole, why ?
You live WAAAY too close to him to be an Internet tough guy because he’s liable to show up at your house and stick your keyboard up your ass. Have you met him, he’s a HUGE fucking guy who has military training. I suggest you slither back under your rock.
Thanks Jimmy… You’ll notice the gutless punk completely bailed once I called him out by name location phone wife etc.
The only reason I don’t head out in that direction is I don’t have a fucking car or I would probably hunt this fucker down and cut his fucking scalp off and hang it outside my wigwam right now… Like I said I got nothing left….
Fucking with a man who has nothing left to lose is probably the most stupid thing any asshole could ever do..
BCE, right after my marriage blew up after I found out she’d been having an affair behind my back and wanted to leave me and marry the asshole something similar happened to me.
I knew she was with HIM and I knew where they were…. I was heading to my gun safe and I now know how someone can snap and commit a “crime of passion”. I felt like my World was crashing down over me but thankfully I had a 100% real religious experience that stopped me from doing it.
I know where you are at and I know you are hurting bad because you never would have done all that you did for her unless you really loved her and the Grans.
I’m so sorry and I know how bad it hurts but I’ll say you really made the best decision that she forced you into because she was never going to set boundaries with DC.
Try to watch the booze consumption, I know right after all of what happened to me I was downing a 1/5th of vodka every night until after a few days I stopped. That can screw you up and listen to your lawyer. If you need money for a rental car or for the lawyer don’t hesitate to tell us all. Also since you are probably going to downsize your place anyway, sell some of the stuff you want to get rid of and make a few bucks. My Sister in Law sells tons of stuff on Facebook Marketplace. Good Luck and I’m praying for you.
BCE: ^^^ This. ^^^
After a similar experience I got to the place where I didn’t love her, nor Did I hate her, she became the equivalent of a inanimate object
Bro, you got a lot left to lose. Your future and your dignity. I suspect you’re too smart to do anything sideways. Without knowing the dirty details, without you as the buffer and voice of sanity in regards to DC, she may come crawling back at some point. Watch for it. Happened to me and wound up costing me more including 6 hard yrs in the bottle as well as nearly 3 yrs. in court. Don’t decide anything major right away.
Not to worry. You also just happened to give all of us his info too. I suggest he keep an eye over his shoulder from now on.
I’m single and have never been happier in my life. Turning 71 and so thankful I don’t have any fat ass psycho anchor hanging around my neck. My golden years will remain so, every penny I get is mine to spend as I see fit, doing whatever I want and no drama like some folks seem to enjoy living in. House and both cars paid for, debt free, and spending as much time outdoors as I can.
BTDT, been broke and had to find new wheels, but I got thru it, same as you need to do now. Get your head and your health straightened out and stay away from anyone that doesn’t enlighten your life.
You have the opportunity of a lifetime to open a new clean chapter with no dirt on the pages, take advantage of it.
I am sorry for your bad news. Very sorry. I wish you the best, man. Like that Fallout song, “into each life some rain must fall, but too much is falling in mine.” I’m nearly to 20 and this last year it’s been close to the drain for me, too. Take care of your self.
BCE:
Did she take a swipe at you, miss and hit the doggie?
Spin
I can either confirm nor deny but… R/N how to respect of the love that I had for her I’m not going to utterly destroy her for what happened.
Trust me when I say it’s one of the most f’d up things I’ve ever had the displeasure of seeing in my entire life…. And it includes watching full grown Afghan men rape small male children
absolutely knew it had something to do with the doggo. dont fuck with a mans doggo. (John Wick).
Do this asap… move all guns and ammo to a secondary site or storage. Except your carry and battle rifle, naturally. But get the rest of the gear where she doesnt have access. Do this now. Priority.
smart advice
In progress bro…. One of the very first things I did….. Trust me I’m not having that happen again like with the first wife
I made that mistake. I moved out for 3 days otherwise I was going to do “something” to her.
when I got back, the house looked like I had been robbed bigtime. she took everything she could
sell or throw away to piss me off. moved your shit worth keeping somewhere you TRUST.
and not in your name either- lawyers and shit. you know all of this anyway.
check six as always. easy on the booze as they/she will use that against you and you know it.
Hi Dave, sorry everyone I’m posting a lot on this thread but it’s bringing back memories.
I did the same thing and she took EVERYTHING besides the few things I took in my car when I left. I had a feeling she’d do this so I took most of the stuff I cared about including all of my guns except the safe.
She gave all of my stuff to her loverboy and now husband. What’s hilarious was he was my size and in pictures for years I’d see him wearing my clothes… like that jacket sure looks familiar.
She even resized my wedding ring and guess what he’s wearing to this day ?
Honestly though other things upset me or pissed me off, that stuff makes me laugh and reminds me what a greedy and crazy POS she is and what an asshole he is to wear another man’s clothes.
sorry to hear you got dealt a bad hand there BCE, as far as expat locations, I guess depends on what your occupation plans are. I see a lot of online types going to both Mexico and or Panama. Costa Rica is popular but $$$ from what I hear, hope you land somewhere thats a good place for you and the doggos.
The Sonoran Desert: cheap plus too hot for “hawt women”, with the bonus play being the scorching sands that destroy their shoes should they be inclined to follow you.
Absolutely love it for both the negatives and the positives.
CR was at one time a great place to go to. But.. well… the locals learned who has money and stuff and too many Americans have somewhat soured the environment.
BCE needs to move to wherever will make him happy. But he’s got some things to think of.
Like to stay local to the VA he’s got relatively positive contact with or move to another VA district.
Like what does he want to do with his life after the need to skull-fuck someone or something calms down.
Like does he want to be anywhere that reminds him of bad memories?
Who knows, maybe he can move with Sapper since they seem sympatico.
them red pills come in all shades of red… BCE.. keep yer head on straight.. and remember:
Distance+Time = Indifference (drives em bat shit crazy…)
Let the only thing she hears from you be…. silence.
Damn! I feel like the odd man out here.
Semi-happily married to the same woman for over 50 years.
Yes, I’ve had my “adventures” (quietly), but nothing I’m willing to put into pixels, only talk about over good company and better brews.
Twenty year military career, retired, house finally paid for.
Four grown children, one that’s worth a damn. The rest have problems, but we still talk.
Where did I go wrong?
Anyway, yes, get ALL the guns and ammo hidden away and out of sight, to someone/someplace that not even Gretch knows about.
Ditto for bank accounts and plastic. Withdraw the cash and shut off the credit YESTERDAY! You’re in deep enough hock already, no sense on leaving the shovel out to allow “her” to dig the debt hole so deep you can never crawl out of it.
Sell what you can afford to do without to lighten your travel load. ‘Cause you WILL be moving.
I don’t know how vindictive Gretch can be, but think about a restraining order and changing the house locks so that she can’t get in and wreck the house before you sell it.
With your super sleuth skills, do some digging on Gretch’s past marriages. Possibly she never fully divorced one of her past ex’s, that makes your marriage to her null and void, you walk away clean.
The only downside that I can see to this divorce is you lose all contact with the Nooclear Redhead. Sad….but necessary. Harden yourself to it. Gretch would use her as a bludgeon against you at any opportunity.
As for SP’s money that I sent you, use it in good health.
Will you continue to work for The People’s Tractor Factory? Despite the aggrivations, it sounds like a fairly sweet gig that can be done anywhere (hint).
It sounds like you’re ready to become the latest member of the MGTOW (Men Going Their Own Way) club.
Best of luck to you and the four legged critters.
As for fireworks, well, we’re in drought conditions here in the intermountain West, so many places and even cities are posting signs saying DON’T.
Sadly, yours, Toxic Deplorable
See ya ’round the campfire.
The emotional pain is temporary, the pleasure of solitude and peace is forever. Been single since ’97 and haven’t once missed having a full-time woman onsite.The pos will outweigh the neg. I would definitely get behind a “Truck for BCE” fund.
Wow- a fireworks weekend in all the wrong ways. I am sorry-it hurts to love someone and then have them turn on you. In the end, I think all of the G-associated drama (DC, her parents, the grans, etc) will not be missed. Get your possessions in order, sell the house, and find a nice place in KY/TN/NC/WV or extreme northern California that is small, off grid, and is quiet country. Ever heard of the Lost Coast? Beautiful country and very peaceful. Shasta and Trinity counties are beautiful. There are even rural properties in El Dorado County and you would be close to VA. Make yourself a list of lists in a cheap dollar tree notebook, then start checking off the list. Your mind is stressed out and you won’t be able to remember everything. God Bless-we are here for you.
Bro… That’s really fucked up. Saw the other post, will help where we can.
Wishing you the best in the circumstances.
Fellow Vet in Tampa Bay area
I was way late to this thread, but sumbitch if this isn’t a bite in the ass. I hate to say I was starting to think this outcome was coming, but my gut was definitely “tingling”, especially after the latest revelation about DC and the thing with the sausage princess.
Don’t think I can add much useful advice, not only has most everything been covered by other commenters, but being a perennial bachelor, I’ve avoided all the bullshit and “strategy” needed to navigate a divorce. Gotta say get your valuables – especially weapons – out of the house and safely in the custody of someone you can trust. Almost guaranteed you will either get swatted/red flagged, or she’ll try to lay claim to some of it as marital assets, or some such bullshittery. What’s the disposition of the house; do you have to sell it and split the proceeds with her? Or is it solely in your name as a pre-marriage asset. I don’t know Florida law on any of this stuff, so legit asking.
Sounds like you are probably SOL on the car, not sure you’ll convince a judge it is rightfully yours. It’s worth a try, of course. As was said up thread, it’s a bummer for the nuclear redhead to lose your stabilizing influence, but – and I really hate to say this – as she got older, I figure she’d take on the less admirable characteristics of those who spawned her, so there’d be even more drama to deal with.
This whole situation sucks, but the amount of long-term suckitude you were undoubtedly being led into had your marriage lasted would’ve been much worse with DC re-entering the picture, and now with another sprog inbound, at that.
So now you have the opportunity for a clean start (even if it nicks your finances) and can give the whole dysfunctional circus the big “FOAD”. As others have said, the expat thing may not be the best option under present circumstances. Americans are tolerated (sometimes only grudgingly) where they contribute to the local economy, but when shit finally comes apart vis a vis the US economy and international relations, you may find yourself the target of some resentful folks who don’t much care for the big gringo who stands out like a whore in church. As FUBAR as the FUSA is right now, I think I’d still prefer to stay here, than to risk being truly isolated with no good connections to fall back on.
Maybe it’s time to go “Backwood Big Country”, find a nice spot in TN or KY (or thereabouts) and ghost out on all the stupidity.
Changing gears, I have to concur on the fireworks thing. I’m doing a little tomorrow for my own amusement, but called off my big show for this year. Half my family (siblings, nieces and nephews) all decided to fuckoff to other venues for a “vacation” this week, and since I usually do the show for the benefit of friends and family (and now barely anyone is here to watch it), fuck it. No show from me, considering the amount of money, time and effort that goes into planning and executing a 25-30 minute show. I’m saving the product I have on hand for use next year (if we make it that far), and will consider buying more at wholesale come next February or March, depending on what the state of things looks like then.
One thing is for sure, there have been near zero fireworks going off in my AO so far this week (even tonight) which is unusual, and the number of roadside tents is noticeably fewer than years past. I really do think people are tapped out, and burning money (literally) on fireworks just isn’t a priority right now.
Hell, the dollar has lost 11% of its value already this year, and with the big beautiful buttfuck bill not cutting spending to any material degree, and increasing the debt ceiling limit another $5 trillion, Trump is going to end up making joey shitpants inflation and $10/dozen eggs look like the good old days, at the rate things are going. We have much pain incoming, and right now it seems like everyone around me is just kind of nervously laughing and trying to maintain appearances. I went out for dinner to a local barbecue place I really like last night (which is usually busy even on weekday evenings) and it was deader than hell in there. That’s anecdotal I know, but it feels like a indication of real trouble brewing.
A noticable lack of illegals and the porchmonkeys actually being required/have access to work may have something to do with it. I know in my area there’s only been a couple nights of minimal boom rather than the constant shelling that made it sound like trench warfare in WWI.
An observation: occasionally the chick wants to “come back”.
That’s when the chick isn’t done manipulating you yet and she thinks she can play “dread relationship game” to get something really big she wants but knows you won’t agree to except under duress.
So this 4th of July, enjoy your own personal “emancipation proclamation” … and since that house stays yours under Florida law, see if there’s someone to unload it on or some way to extract most of the equity out of it.
As for where to bail out to?
I like the places most people won’t go to.
Even a weeb paradise like Japan … sure, you hear all about the hordes that go to Tokyo, Kyoto, and Osaka.
It’s a lot more peaceful in Hakodate where the weebs will freeze their noses solid in winter.
So Costa Rica?
OK … leave the capital behind, give Jaco a look instead.
Make a coastal run down toward Golfito and enjoy the Costa Rica version of California Highway 1.
You’ll see. 🙂
The problem with places like costa rica is that you are using the VA for your medical. A lot harder to maintain your meds and other needs.
Big plus for northern Sonora then: not that far to Yuma.
Sorry to hear this. Damned shame. I hope your exfil is clean and easy. Look at Paraguay, if its good enough for the Bushes, its good enough for you.
WTAF?
Late to this also, but you busted your ass for that woman, as well as dealing with the allll attendant drama.
Lots of good advice overall. I can’t add much, but to reiterate that you not fall prey to manipulation.
Get leveled out, and don’t let anything destabilize you more.
I’ve had my own store of family horror dealings. I am completely alone now, and while it wasn’t something I saw coming, it’s ok.
May G-d bless you.
Thanks Rosie, and allllllll you deplorable assholes.
I love y’all…
I mean it…
Dayum. I work my ass off for a coupla’ days, and tune in to “Big Country Adventures” after missing a few episodes (99% guaranteed to make you laugh out loud) and holy shit. So sorry to hear big man. I’ve only been divorced once and that was enough for me. Been going my own way ever since and it does make adventuring easier, load up the mo’orsickle and bam, away we go! Lived in Nicaragua for three years in San Juan del Sur, 10 miles North of the Costa Rican border which I had to hop every 90 days to renew my visa. 1/2 as expensive as CR, but I got out when Ortega took back power. (Time to go, knock, knock, knock). Bloody shame. I get the impression she hurt the doggo, totally unacceptable.
As far the fireworks… I live on the Northern border of Frenchtown in Tallahassee, which is the historically 2G bad area of downtown. New Year’s and Independence Day lead up weeks, the fireworks grow in tempo and crescendo leading up to the day itself. Picture Lil’ Mogadisho. Very light fireworks last night. Noticeably so.
Stay in the fight! God bless you, man.
I was out on the road yesterday and normally a Thursday before a 4th on the Friday 3-day weekend would have been wall to wall traffic. Yesterday? It was a damn ghost town. I thought maybe it was just me.
Funny, I’ve also noted unusually light traffic on interstates for a holiday weekend. Have family that skipped town for the week to vacation in the Smoky Moutains, but things really do seem muted here locally, versus what has been typical for the 4th. I’ll be doing some recon tonight to see if the whole “perceptibly understated party” atmosphere continues.
And here I was, wondering why my attempts to donate to the puppers repair fund didn’t go through. Really sorry to hear about your latest travails. If anyone needs a goodly long stretch of peace it’s you. I fully endorse the above comments (well, Micah’s excepted). Disentangle yourself to the greatest extent possible but don’t make hasty decisions. Although you’ll need a ride, I live in northeast Tennessee and if you need a place to chill for a bit you can stay with me. The world is getting crazier by the day but it’s peaceful here. Be well.
I am sorry to hear about your situation,you ever cruise your old stomping ground in Boston will buy ya’s dinner and a beer(OK……..,a lot of beers/we will need a cab/uber whatever)!).
As far as home sale offers just think before acting,but……,you knew that!
Hope the next turn in the road has new/better offerings.
Sorry to hear that.
I think it is the dream of every man to find a reliable woman, have a family, raise kids and be together till death parts us.
But today, thats the very very rare exception.
Still I wish you well, protect your property and money, find a nice place to live and go on.
Thats the only thing we can do.Go on, regardless what happened. We cannot change it, just accept it and go on.
Ditto with most of what was posted above.
Dealing with a possibility of the same myself.
If you’re going to imbibe…make sure you OD on Fuckitall.
I’m just about at the point where I don’t give a fuck about anything anymore…and I’m good with that.
Sorry to hear the news of your imminent surprize emancipation; well not really. You been rode hard and put up wet for a while now. As some have mentioned there were signs, even to us outsiders. This is probably the best and only relief/reset option you could have been handed. Take your best shot at a cold, sober denouement of the situation. BTDT – it’s never easy, but it is sometimes required. Stay chill and head on a swivel.
Hopefully the Sausage Princess will recover completely; and you as well.
this is a regular reader of the bleg and occasional maker of comments. Been there, done that. We who have ever had a close bond such as marriage dissolve all feel your pain, really. I recall as a kid, when us kids might find a baby bird on the ground, the mom unit would encourage my siblings and I to nurse the creature back to health. I recall 2 or 3 of these, perhaps more before I was old enough to understand what was going on. (there’s a lesson here, bear with me). My siblings and I grew up and 3 of the 4 of us entered into marital “bliss” with a female that turned out to be a psycho to one degree or another. I am convinced that my male siblings and I entered such arrangements thinking “we can save the little bird that fell out of the nest”. It just don’t work like that, as we all discovered. Along the way I learned the term “borderline personality disorder” and each of my siblings and I had entered relationships with female with this deeply horrible affliction. I am further convinced we could not see these troubles coming because in our formative years, we were conditioned to save the bird that fell out of the nest – and by our experience, it always worked out just fine.
Well, birds and humans as it turns out – are not alike.
Do not bleg while or after consuming EtOh.
Do not seek wimenz companionship with a broken heart.
Stay true to yourself.
I will leave you with this wonderful story that has been around for quite some time:
Once upon a time, a Prince asked a beautiful Princess…
“Will you marry me?”
The Princess said “NO!”
And the Prince lived happily ever after, and rode motorcycles, and went fishing, and hunting, collected old guns, bought as much ammo as he ever wanted, and played golf, and f&cked women half his age, and drank beer and scotch with his buddies and had tons of money in the bank, and snorted white substances off hookers t!ts and scratched his balls without criticism and left the toilet seat up ALL THE TIME.
I love happy endings.
That sucks in a major way. Wife and I had our problems but with it all she and I had 50 years together.
Ya don’t need to head out to those exotic places. Point your ass north outa Tampa on Dale Mabry to 41 and roll ~ 90 miles. VA just opened a new facility last year in Ocala and there are lots of friendly small towns in the area to set down in – with land if you want that. I can tell you this ’cause I’m in one. Plus lots of lakes, springs, rivers and you’re only about 30 miles from the gulf.
Stay strong dude.
I agree, I’m always on the lookout for a small place in the Ocala Nat Forest, everything south of SE 42 is being eaten up by The Villages, but there are places available inside the forest boundaries.
Ǹorth of Pittman, or Altona, Maybe somewhere around Cross Creek.
So, my soon to be ex-spouse decided ‘she wasn’t happy’ in our marriage last fall and decided she wanted a divorce. Seems to be a lot of this going round… Our 34 yr anniversary was coming up in a few days. So, this woman, who never contributed shit to family financials, but had a pretty healthy paying job, now gets half of all the stuff I paid for as well as half my inheritances, because they checks moved through our ‘marital’ account. The one that she has touched in over 20 years, because, I, was too controlling of the money, so she had her pay put in her account and I had my pay put in ‘our’ account. Worked out well for her, she was able to be Santa 24x7x365 to our two kids, while telling me that I don’t have a relationship with our children because I was working 80 hour weeks. Not that she would step up and pay any of the bills, but hey now, there are limits to this marriage stuff. Hard to pallet, but treat it like a business transaction, yeah, I’m still working on this myself. LOVE the term ‘Borderline personality disorder’ but, it seems to shine the most positive light on the root of the problem. I’m actually starting to look forward to getting away from her in a gnaw my leg off to get out of the trap mindset. I’ll have more time at the range and a resto of my High School car. But, I’m constantly questioning why I put up with her crap for this long.
I did 4 years in CR, lotta good still there, but like most places, you need a guide in the jungle.
Worth a visit, EZ flight, nice scouting trip.
You can have A Lot of fun in CR.
Eugene Oregon.
I notice none of the usual mega-circus tents selling fireworks.
They usually have a mega tent in Lowe’s parking lot, empty.
Wal*Mart, empty.
Wilco Farm Co-Op, bare.
.
Anymore, I rarely leave the farm, so my noticing circle is small.
I hope this helps!
fuck them rotten cunts
that is all
Didn’t get a chance to read all the comments – there were 79. I’m very sorry to hear the news Big C. I will be praying for you. You take care of yourself.
BCE, Sorry about your situation.
Now that you mentioned it yes the normal plethora of fireworks are missing here in Lake.
An AAR on last night s fireworks in da ‘hood, plenty enough so that I had to spend the evening listening to white noose on the Alexa and holding the dog as she was freaking out about the noise of all the explosions.
My roommate has a farm for sale in rural mountainous costa rica
buycostarica.farm
ignore the posted price, she’s very open to negotiations
prefers a US buyer so the CR govt doesn’t kill her on the transaction
just FYI – it’s valid, she lived there eleven years with her husband
Well Mr. Country- I’d invite you to come to west Texas after you pull chocks but you’d hate it. No water. Many sparsely populated areas but they’re like that for a reason. Stay out of New Mexico. Whole mid to western state (NM) is too blue to screw. Look at night sat images for dark areas for ideas. Good luck, pal.
Just an observation but my spousal unit has been on a tear for the last 4 weeks. Complaining about everything under the sun, me, our kid, me, my stuff, her job (she quit), our condo up keep, condo renters, broken furniture and all. I’m sitting back trying to decide which half of my stuff I’m gonna miss as her actions and mouth were getting out of hand and I was contemplating the big D. Then out of the blue on the 3rd she comes over to my easy chair and apologizes for acting like a maniac. We are on day two of the “New Spousal Unit.” We’ll see how long it lasts.
There was a planetary alignment or such a few weeks back and that may have set off the women folk as some of my contemporaries complained more than normal about their units. Hopefully your unit does not entice you to reconcile, the DC in the background will burn that to the ground also. I pray for your doggies and for you and Sapper.
Spin
Spin Drift, if she is in her 40s and up she may be starting menopause and is on a hormone roller coaster.
I know a bunch of women that that has happened too and if that’s happening to your wife, have her see her doc, get tested and the doc can give her hormones and/or some happy pills to mellow her out.
Was just going to say that and concur with your statement…