{"id":7529,"date":"2025-08-16T04:54:46","date_gmt":"2025-08-16T04:54:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bigcountryexpat.com\/?p=7529"},"modified":"2025-08-16T04:54:47","modified_gmt":"2025-08-16T04:54:47","slug":"grans-and-a-story-from-some-bar-brawling-back-in-the-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bigcountryexpat.com\/index.php\/2025\/08\/16\/grans-and-a-story-from-some-bar-brawling-back-in-the-day\/","title":{"rendered":"Grans, and a Story From Some Bar Brawling Back in The Day"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Greetings and Salutations!
I appreciate EVERYONES contributions and perspectives that they’ve thrown up in the comments. Truly… they’ve helped me a lot<\/strong> with ‘maintaining my perspective’

Now on thing, tfAt, a fellow Rakkasan Brother who’s advised me to dip completely when it comes to the Grans? I can understand<\/strong> the perspective, however, It ain’t happening.<\/strong> -I-<\/strong> was the one who initially engineered Gran #1’s “rescue” if you will WAAAY back when she was only about a year old. Hell… I wasn’t even married to SWMNBN at the time which is exactly why she went to the OtherGrans.

Since we weren’t<\/strong> married, we knew (all of us) that the best bet when the State started examining the families so to speak for stability, that the OtherGrans were the best choice. I however was the one who came up with the scheme of telling DumbCunt that she and the BabyDaddy had “…worked so hard, and deserved a break from the baby…” which is why they left her with us, and gave us the time and ability to set things in motion…

And now?

Gran Number One, the Nukular Powered Never Sleeps Redhead has been formally adopted<\/strong> by the OtherGrans which means she’s safe forever.<\/strong> And for that? Well… maybe that<\/strong> one good deed is something I can be proud of for setting in motion. Maybe that’ll keep me out of Hell when the Reckoning comes right?

See… Family may be blood…
BUT
To me, Family is something\/the people you choose.<\/strong>

And despite some bad choices, and shit-decisions I’ve made as well as ‘other’ things in my life, I choose<\/strong> to make sure Red and Addy are going to be in my life no matter fucking what<\/strong> and that they know it<\/strong>.

In fact, one of the things that drives SWMNBN absolutely bugshit insane<\/strong> is that OtherGran? Her X-Hubby? He and I, despite all of her machinations, actually were and now are close and get along thick as thieves. It positively drives her to madness…

I mean sure, he’s got his faults (like being a rabid Bucs fan LOL) but overall, even before the whole shytteshow, he and I actually got along pretty well… and now?

Well… let’s just say I get visitation after Red gets fully settled into school. Right now she needs to focus, but after? Frodrick (which is how I’ll refer to him, as he reminds me of Gene Wilder in “Young Frankenstein”) Frodrick has already said that Red can come for a weekend with Sapper and myself AFTER she gets her ‘school rhythm’ and pattern down.

That’s pretty important as she’s a wee bit ADHD and non-stop as I’ve mentioned… so making sure that getting her ‘patterns’ and regular ‘dynamic’ right is more important right now that a visit with Big Papi, Sapper and the Doggos. Once she’s good, I might spoil her with a trip to Busch Gardens or something… either way…

Family is<\/strong> important

BUT

Not if it hurts or harms you.
Or diminishes or degrades you
ESPECIALLY<\/em><\/strong> if the people who are doing this claim<\/strong> that they’re doing it out of ‘love’ or ‘care’ or even worse, the phrase “… for your own good!!!” That bullshit gets immediately <\/strong>classed under gaslighting and fuck everyone who’s ever done it to me in the past… preferably sideways with a jackhammer…

Hence why I have very limited<\/em><\/strong> contact with a lot of my ‘blood kin’… Like why<\/strong> should I tolerate disrespect, gaslighting and bullshit ALL because we have some ‘blood related relationship’?

Nope.

Done with that.
My family<\/strong> are who I choose<\/strong>

Like it, lump it, or leave it.
I’m too old to play semantic games.

And Red and Addy?
THOSE<\/strong> are my Grans.
End of Story\/Explanation.

So otherwise, a story from WAAAY back in the day…
Since SWMNBN has been telling THE WORLD I’m some sort of abusive prick, making sound like I’m some sort of alcoholic abusive wife-beater, I figure I should clarify things.

1) I am not<\/strong> an alcoholic
They go to meetings.
I’m a fucking drunk goddamit.
Get it right woman!

2) I’m abusive.
Nope.
Never have I ever hit a woman
EXCEPT<\/strong>
(queue story time)

WAAAAAAAAAAAY back in the day as a young party hard E-4 in Nurnberg Germany, there was a rather notorious<\/em> club called the “Green Goose”:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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“The Goose” as we called it was a Heavy Metal Bar. Just Outside\/Inside of the “Old Town” side of Nurnberg, with a GREAT Gyro shop next door, it was the go-to place for most of 1-4 Infantry back in the day’. The Goose was originally opened and run by a US Army veteran, it had expanded alllllll over Germany when I was there. Bamberg, Frankfurt… it was Nurnberg ‘branch’ if you will that I practically lived at during my two years there, and had a great time while doing so. I even had the “club card” that let me get in without having to pay a cover:<\/p>\n\n\n

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I’m kind of bummed that I don’t remember what happened to that card… it was like an actual<\/strong> plastic card like a credit card… but anyways…

Since places like this is where “Joe” (i.e. US Army Personnel) congregates, you invariably end up with some fights\/brawling or in some instances some “out of Hollywood” full on Bar Brawls like you see in the movies.

One night I ended up involved in one such fight.

The night started off like a normal Friday.
Lots of booze
Great Music
Pantera being a BIG thing on the play list at the time… Glen Danzig and “Mother” being on regular rotation:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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